MemberAnd still no ring… Not in the making, not picked out, not even one being considered…
I told myself a year ago that this was my walk date, yet I don’t think I’m planning on leaving quite yet.
Unlike last year, I’ve become way more vocal this year. I show him rings and dresses from time to time, even let him know that I want either a small destination wedding or an elopement. I think he’s coming around to the idea. We’ll see.
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MemberAt the 5 year mark, I think talking about engagement concretely should be a must.
Fiance and I got engaged last September after 6 years of dating, but we had had a serious discussion about it and it was known that we would be getting engaged. It was just a matter of money for us.
MemberI’d be questioning things if after 5 years he still wasn’t sure. I’d probably feel pretty awkward about celebrating dating anniversaries at this point, too.
Member@Helloemi: Good luck and hang in there! I’m going on year 8 and we just recently started talking about it. (Like in the past year) and the best part about waiting until he’s ready and he comes around is HE’S excited about it and HE’S the one who brings it up sometimes so I don’t feel like I’m pushing it on him.
I know waiting sucks and wondering if you’re ever going to get to that point but if you are happy with him and you love him and know he feels the same way, there is no reason to end it. IT’ll happen in the right time!!
MemberYou went ring shopping 4 months ago. How do you know for sure there’s no ring.
MemberForget there was anything here
Member@Scar_cats_tic: not really. He’s never come up with anything definite. I even ask him “when” and he doesn’t ever have much to say about it, and unfortunately in his defense, his sister’s been waiting for 10.
@Artificial-Sweetener: yeah, money’s not an issue, he’s just slow…. At everything. it’s kind of a joke with his family. ;P :/
@VaVaVoomBee: thanks for the words. It’s nice to hear from someone so optimistic, I feel like I shouldn’t feel like I’m waiting for a ring though, and as much as I try, I can’t not feel that way.
@NickiBee: there’s just no ring… After 5 years together you kinda share everything, including bank accounts.
MemberChin up!! I thought for sure I’d be getting engaged on my 5 year anniversary. But 9 months later I was happy to be accepting a ring.
MemberI think if you won’t be getting a ring for your anniversary the least he should be able to do is a clear timeline.
Member@MrsTVLover: thanks! 🙂
MemberSo, you think that you talking about it more means he’s more likely to propose? I wouldn’t want to marry someone that I had to talk into marrying me.
5 years is long enough. Too long maybe. If he wanted to marry you, he would have proposed by now without any pressure. Actions speak louder than words, so listen to what his actions are telling you. Don’t fool yourself.
Member@oneofthesethings: not so simple, we kind of own a house together.
MemberAt 5 years I felt the same too. Fiance proposed a month and a half before our 6 year anniversary. It was frustrating, but we talked about it a lot since the 4 1/2ish mark.
Member@Helloemi: maybe he will just propose with a chepa ring and let you pick your own one afterwards? thats what my hubby did after 6.5 yrs of dating. but i knew eventually he would propose so it was just a matter of waiting…..waiting….for what seemed like forever. u should sit down and ask your partner if he actually wants what you want.
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