(Closed) Today is our 5 year anniversary…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

At the 5 year mark, I think talking about engagement  concretely should be a must.

 

Fiance and I got engaged last September after 6 years of dating, but we had had a serious discussion about it and it was known that we would be getting engaged. It was just a matter of money for us.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d be questioning things if after 5 years he still wasn’t sure. I’d probably feel pretty awkward about celebrating dating anniversaries at this point, too.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

@Helloemi:  Good luck and hang in there! I’m going on year 8 and we just recently started talking about it. (Like in the past year) and the best part about waiting until he’s ready and he comes around is HE’S excited about it and HE’S the one who brings it up sometimes so I don’t feel like I’m pushing it on him.

I know waiting sucks and wondering if you’re ever going to get to that point but if you are happy with him and you love him and know he feels the same way, there is no reason to end it. IT’ll happen in the right time!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You went ring shopping 4 months ago.  How do you know for sure there’s no ring.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Chin up!!  I thought for sure I’d be getting engaged on my 5 year anniversary.  But 9 months later I was happy to be accepting a ring. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I think if you won’t be getting a ring for your anniversary the least he should be able to do is a clear timeline.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So, you think that you talking about it more means he’s more likely to propose?  I wouldn’t want to marry someone that I had to talk into marrying me.  

5 years is long enough.  Too long maybe.  If he wanted to marry you, he would have proposed by now without any pressure.  Actions speak louder than words, so listen to what his actions are telling you.  Don’t fool yourself.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

At 5 years I felt the same too. Fiance proposed a month and a half before our 6 year anniversary. It was frustrating, but we talked about it a lot since the 4 1/2ish mark.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Helloemi:  maybe he will just propose with a chepa ring and let you pick your own one afterwards? thats what my hubby did after 6.5 yrs of dating. but i knew eventually he would propose so it was just a matter of waiting…..waiting….for what seemed like forever. u should sit down and ask your partner if he actually wants what you want.

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