Thank you for your kind response. Todd was all of those things — kind, funny, optimstic, etc. I was lucky to be married to someone like him and his qualities do inspire me to be the best I can be as well.
Supersleuth : KittyYogi : elderbee : thisisaname :
Thank you for being so nice. It means a lot that you took the time to respond. I have attended lots of bereavement /PTSD counselling over the years, and it has helped some. I’m also on Zoloft now and it helps a bit. I think some scars just never quite heal, but that’s ok I guess too.
I’m sorry for your loss too. And I commend you for giving love another chance. It’s so hard not to feel so guilty and worried about what people think, not to mention feeling like you just can’t wrap your head around all the complicated emotions that come with trying to love again while you’re still grieving for someone you lost. It does get a little easier over time, but most people just don’t understand and never will until it happens to them, and even then, it’s different for everyone. I’m here for you if you ever need to talk!
That was good advice, thank you. I need end up texting with his brother for a while and a few of our mutual friends and it did help.
Posting and reading the kind comments helped a ton. I’m sorry to read that you’re going through a hard time too. If it would help to talk to a stranger, I’m happy to list.
Thank you for the recommendation – I’ve never heard of GriefShare but will look into it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your situation and mine sound very similar — same age, etc., except I didn’t have children with my late husband, which was hard in its own way because we always wanted children together. My new husband is incredibly understanding overall about my past — I just worry about how he really feels about it all sometimes and don’t want to be insensitive to his feelings. My new husband and I have had some of our own separate relationship issues the past few months, though, which I know tends to trigger my anxiety and grief. Anyway, let me know if you ever want someone to talk about who understands the young window / remarrying a divorced guy thing 🙂
sunburn : techmom :
Thanks so much for your kind response — I really apprecate it and it helped.
Thank you for your empathetic comments and for the resources — that was so nice of you.
I’m really sorry to hear that you went through something so hard too. I will look into EMDR, thanks for the suggestion!