(Closed) Today is the day he leaves…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

((hugs))

You can do it!  Feel free to PM me anytime.  FI and I are 1 week on, 3 weeks off, so a similar schedule.  The first months will be hard, but after a while, you’ll fall into a routine of when to call, adjusting to time zone changes (if any), and (re)learning to communicate.  It’s not easy, but you know you’re doing the best thing for your current and future family.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MrsHoneyC:  Hi sweetie! I’ve done the long distance thing for 8 years with my boyfriend being in Toronto and me being in Nashville, TN. This last year I’ve been up in Montreal, but he’s still in toronto and I will be moving down shortly to be with him. Just hang in there, you will be doing your daily routine and you can talk to him everyday through email/phone calls. I actually was talking to a man from London, ON who would fly up every 2 months to spend a month in SK mining Uranium. He said it was SO hard to leave his family and that he cannot get back to them fast enough. I bet your guy feels that way…..they work long, hard days and I bet he will be thoroughly consumed with seeing you. On the upside, there is nothing sweeter than being together again after a month or two apart….you will be giddy for a LONG time πŸ™‚ Plus as you are saying, this is helping you afford the things that make your life more comfortable. As long as you can talk/email everyday, it’s not so bad…it gives you something to look forward to daily πŸ™‚ *hugs*

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We do this as well. My Fiance only has long weekends off from may-November and the rest of the time he’s out of town. It’s hard, but the time that we do see each other is more special because we can’t take each other for granted! I’ve found that it was really hard anddepressing at first but now that I am used to it it’s not so bad.

Post # 6
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674 posts
Busy bee

My brother is in the music industry, so he has a similar (though less predictible) schedule. Right now, he’s doing cruises, so he’s out on the boats for 2-4 weeks, then back at home for 1-5 weeks. When he’s on tour, it’s out on the road for up to 6 weeks, but then home maybe 6-8 weeks.

He’s been married for 20 years and has two kids, so I would say it can work.

Post # 7
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768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fiance and I did this for about 2 years (3 weeks gone, 1 week home). If you need to talk feel free to PM me. It can work, even though it can be hard at first. Makes your time together more special…good luck! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ok I’m never going to complain anymore about FI’s 2 week night shift 2 week day shift job!!! It’s hard not to bother him (I have to stay on regular day shift with my daughter) during the day when he’s sleeping, but at least he is HERE! I feel for you gals!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

No advice.  But big hugs.  It sounds like it’s a great job and in the long run will be better for the both of you.  Congrats on his new job.  Sorry you’ll be missing him!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t read the other ladies posts, but we just got done doing something similar (he was a few states away for three week periods for an instilation).  It was hard on me, but I knew it was even harder on him.  For the longest strech I made him a packet of envelopes, each with a date on, and he got to open a letter a day.  Some included notes, pictures and others random fun things.  He loved it and looked forward to opening his ‘note’ for the day.  As for me, I would do my best to stay busy.  I tried getting a lot of wedding stuff done and visited with family and friends that I don’t see often.  

I really feel for you ladies that have to do this on a regular basis, It was very hard! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Fi and I do it…he is in the movie industry, and has been gone up to 7 months at a time on location shoots out of state. Unfortunately, it’s pretty unpredictable. He has been home this time since Christmas, but he could get a call today saying that he need to pack up and head out this weekend. When he’s gone, we talk every day, lots of texting, and I try to go visit him every 6 – 8 weeks. At least I get to see lots of different places!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MrsHoneyC:  My Fiance is on the exact same roster – 2 on 2 off! It was pretty hard to start with, however I try and keep the big picture it mind – eg. house, family etc…. It also keeps things nice & spicy when he returns home if you know what I mean. We definitely appreciate our time together when he is back!

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