Post # 1
I was talking to my best friend today, and it hit me like a train. We are really growing up. Her bachelorette party is this weekend(we are soooo excited for it) but talking about it, i realized… shes getting married in 3 months, and im getting married in 9. Theres not going to be anymore sleep overs, no more sneaking out in the middle of the night with each other, no more pointless car rides, no more sitting around talking about what we wanna do when we grow up, and what we imagine our life will be like when we are “all grown up”.
We have been each others #1 for 17 years.. we both are getting married, have our own houses, and are happier then ever with the men of our dreams. We have always said that we were going to be next door neighbors and sit on the porch while our husbands are at work, and we just sit there chatting while watching our kids play together. We now live and hour apart and even though we will be each others best, we both have our own lives. NOTHING is what we ever dreamed it would be.
Im just extremely sad that our carefree, lazy days of dreaming what our lives would be are over.
Although I am soo soo happy and excited to start our married lives, im going to miss the good ol’ days. This whole thing has put me in such a sad mood today knowing that things are different.
Post # 3
Things will be different because both of you are moving past singlehood into marriage! I completely understand your feelings … couldn’t you talk to her and find ways to get together each month one on one, and also as couples? An hour away is not bad in the whole scheme of things. Go on roadtrips as couples or once in awhile do a girls trip. I know lots of married girls who do that and they are still able to keep their marriages happy at the same time.
Post # 4
(((((((((hugs)))))))))) It’s true, the dreams we had with our best friends growing up rarely turn out the way you think they will. BUT I can only imagine how awesome it is to catch up when you see each other, and how close your kids will be even if you’re an hour apart. Lots of play dates in a park halfway maybe? Special mommy nights out without the kids? You’ll find new ways to celebrate this next stage in your life, trust me!
Post # 5
Girls’ trips are not out of the question! It is sad to leave behind one phase of your life, but just try to focus on how exciting it is to be moving forward with the man that you love! You’re not losing a girlfriend, you’re gaining a husband (as is she) and the relationship between the two of your will continue to grow. She will still be in your life and you can still make time for each other. 🙂 It is nice to see how much you care about each other.
Post # 6
I went through this a bit with my BFF as well – my getting married meant me also moving about 5000 miles away, where before we were just a 4 hour bus ride away from each other. It’s hard sometimes, and I REALLY miss her, but at the same time, there is SO much to look forward to!
She’s getting married next year and it’s fun to talk about her plans, plus after that, in years to come, we’ll be able to bond over the crazy bits of married life, careers, family planning, etc. And for us, we’ve always said we’ll STILL take girls-only trips (we are each others’ favorite traveling partners), and someday far in the future, we’ll take our kids and our husbands and go on family trips. Yes, life changes, but think about the NEW and EXCITING things you’ll have to bond over, and it helps make the past that’s slipping away a little less sad. 🙂
Post # 7
Aw. I’m sorry it’s all bumming you out so much. Make some extra effort to see your friend over the next few days and I guarantee it’ll make you feel better. It’s harder as we get older, but it’s definately worth the effort!