- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Today is miscarriage/stillbirth/infant death awareness day and I just want to take a moment today to recognize all the mamas like me who have lost a baby (or babies). As well as all the dads, grandparents, aunts and siblings who have suffered this type of loss. You are not alone. You have my very deepest sympathies. Whether your loss happened forty years ago or just this afternoon the love that we feel for these little ones is real. And our children that we never see grow up will never be forgotten.
It isn’t the loss that is taboo. It is the grief. People who haven’t been through this kind of loss will probably say “at least you know you can get pregnant” or “it wasn’t a real baby yet anyway” thereby minimizing the grief that is felt.
My hope is that no one ever feels guilty for feeling grief about losing their child. And that those who haven’t experienced this can educate themselves on sensitivity.
I hope that those of you who have had a loss or losses have been able to find support, whether online or in your community. You are not alone.