(Closed) Today was supposed to be our “Bridal Barbeque” Shower :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh my gosh. Hon, that’s just awful. I can’t even figure out how a generous offer from the aunt got turned into such a mess and was turned against you! That’s horrible!!! What mean people! I think your sister should host a shower for you (just your side) at that little bakery you were talking about and say good riddance to the rest of it. What terrible people. Big ((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I’m with @bakerella.    You deserve better treatment than this.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@stefanieastronaut: I don’t know what it is about weddings, but they either bring out the best in people or the very very worst. Everyone seems to think acting like an absolute lunatic is perfectly sane and acceptable. I really don’t get it. It sounds like your Fiance and your side of the family are really supportive, so just focus on the great people and let the grumpy people be grumpy people and try to forget them. Just out of curiosity what does the rest of FH’s family think?

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@stefanieastronaut: That woman sounds like a Class A nutter. Thank goodness you haven’t sent out invites yet. I totally agree, cross her and her classless daughter off the list and invite your friends! What ridiculous people!

I agree though, I’ve been warned about certain people and I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and then it backfires. I’m always surprised but then think “Wow, I really should have known/listened. Lesson learned.”

Blagh! Good riddance! Have a shower at a bakery and enjoy it! It sounds perfect!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow… They seem to be a big o’ fun ball of crazy:)!!!  Maybe it’s best the BBQ didn’t happen… Who knows what you would have “done” then to offend them! 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

WOW!  I don’t even know what to say.  That’s some people for ya.  I am sorry you are going throught this- those words were so hurtful- and right on facebook for everyone to see!  (That’s why I hate facebook.)  Everyone is being so complicated!  It sounds like they are some of those people want something from you, but are not willing to communicate properly.  Regardless, you don’t deserve this, especially at such an important and stressful time, especially from family!

I can relate- my Maid/Matron of Honor did something similar 2 weeks before my wedding.  I have barley slept, if has bothered me so much.  And, today was suposed to be my bridal shower too!  But we decided to elope, (have a very small wedding) because we have crazy family :/  Some people are addicted to drama.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@stefanie- pizza sounds great!  I think I’ve had one every day this week πŸ™‚  Like bakerella said- I dont know why people think they can act crazy around a wedding.  We are under enough stress!  At my sister’s wedding, I cut my hair for her, I helped make things for her, I did everything she wanted.  I guess some people don’t have that selfless spirit.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How RUDE and very trashy to go on FB and post all those messages! I am glad you have been able to look on the bright side! So sorry this happened to you.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sounds as if these people live off of drama and like to go out of their way to hurt people.

You know, I’ve learned there are SOME people who like to hurt those who are happy, in love, or having something great go on in their life.  They just have to be the ones to rain on the parade of the person experiencing the blessing in their life.

Rather than support, they pull apart.  Rather than be kind, they are critical.  And they have no shame in doing that.

I’d cut off all communication with them and def not invite them.  Of course they’ll lie and say bad things about you but don’t worry.  Their past actions of what they did before another wedding speaks volumes.

If I were to guess, there might just be a huuge lack of happiness or good fortune in that household.  Some jealousy and pettiness too.  All tells me they are irl miserable people.

You’ll find that there are many people who will try to tear you down as a bride.  Say nasty things, post nasty diatribes about you or your taste, your big day, or your fiance or ring or whatever.  They are just imho jealous and it shows.  They believe it does not, and think they’re hurting you, but trust me.  It totally shows their jealousy and pettiness and others truly get it.

Don’t worry about them, but do save your emails.  I think truth is sometimes best served cold.  Just keep them to show what really went on!  But leave this thing alone and don’t deal with anything you don’t have to deal with.  Focus on the happy and the fact you have a loving family (immediate) and fiance and his family too!  There is much more to be happy about than let some petty people get in the way of your special time.   

   

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