(Closed) Re: germs around new babies but it’s been edited, so don’t bother. :)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What would Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law do if they already had a toddler in the house?  Banish them to the dungeon germs and all!? 🙂  Lots of parents have sibling children with toddlers in the house.  I don’t think that should be a reason they can’t come.

The other reasons are definitely valid.  The sister and family should’ve waited at least a week/month but that’s up to your Future Sister-In-Law to tell her sister or even Future Brother-In-Law.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Talishazwi: agreed. The other reasons are definitely valid reasons to tell them not to come, but the germ thing… nah.

If the baby is breastfeeding then she will be protected by her mothers immunity… so it shouldn’t be an issue =)

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Talishazwi: yeah I agree.

I thin it was ignorant of the sister to just invite themselves out right after the baby was born, but the brother should develop a backbone and tell them they need to not come. I would have told them no in the first place.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t agree with that in the slightest. I have two children, one who was of preschool age when his younger siser was born. Are you suggesting that I should have kept the two of them apart? As for the family coming to visit right after they got out of the hospital, well it’s not really your place to be angry. You’re not the one who had the baby afterall. If they don’t want them coming, they should tell them that and if not, well it’s their problem and not yours! Be grateful!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think the toddler germs are an issue.  Maybe they are coming because they think they are helping out?  Why doesn’t she just speak up and say no?  That’s what I don’t get.  If the time was really important for her to have with her husband and baby why wouldn’t she say that?

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Babies do have some immunity from their moms. So that’s not as big a concern as you might think.

But, I still think it is incredibly thoughtless to think it is ok to invite yoursleves to STAY at the home of parents who have a brand new baby.

It’s bad enough having people who drop in and expect you to offer them coffee , tea etc.

I certainly home your FSIL’s sister at least makes herself helpful-cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, stockpiling dinners etc come to mind.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think the couple should make the decision on who comes or not… and no one else.  We had family wait and visit when Cecilia was a month, but that was our personal preference and what WE told family members.  We didn’t involve anyone else in that decision.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah I agree with previous posters that I dont think the toddler is going to infect the baby beause many families at one point or the other had to balance a toddler and a new born at the same time. But  I really dont see why the sister wants to come stay with them right after the birth… thats just bad timing

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Interesting you should mention that.  My Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t vaccinate her children at all and they have a newborn, 2 and 5 year olds.  So I fully plan on putting my foot down for her kids not to come around my babies until my babies are on track with their vaccinations.  If the idea is to protect their children from the adverse reactions to vaccinations, then I have the right to protect my kids from unvaccinated children (for the most part).  I wouldn’t go around asking people if they vaccinate their children.  But the recent outbreaks of disease that we vaccinate against really discourages me from trusting unvaccinated children until my kid has vaccinations.

EDIT: It’s rude to to invite yourself over anyways, especially to a new mother who is trying to get acclimated.  I fully intend on not having visitors until a couple weeks after I had the baby since 1)I can take pictures and 2) I’m probably going to be topless b/c I intend to breastfeed and 3)I’ll probably be sleep deprived and don’t need people making comments about my parenting/breastfeeding/etc.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

If I were the BIL I would have a list of things they could do to help out… ask them to make runs to the store, etc.. LOL.. maybe they’ll leave early OR maybe they’ll be a relief.. either way I think I’d find enjoyment out of it. lol

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@UpstateCait:  I think you have to just let them handle these things on their own.  This is at least the second post you’ve had where you’ve been upset about other people’s actions following the birth of this baby (I’m thinking of the facebook post one).  It seems like maybe you are a little too invested when this isn’t your baby.  They are adults, if some is upsetting them to a point that they can’t handle it they will stand up for themselves, you don’t have to worry about doing it for them.

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