Post # 1
We are already wrestling with a guest list around 200 people, which puts us at the top limit of all the venues we are interested in. I am not opposed to having kids and babies at the ceremony or reception, but since a ton of our friends have recently had kids, this would add like 40 babies/kids under 2 years old and I’m wondering if it would make it just feel like a nursery. I am also not sure how reception sites deal with charging for small kids (do they count in the catering cost) or if they add to the “head count” for purposes of maximum capacity. Obviously I will have to check with my preferred venues about this but I’m interested in hearing what people’s experiences were that did decide to have babies/kids at the wedding and had a LOT of them.
Post # 3
@jenniferjane:I decided to do a no kids reception just because a ton of my friends and FH friends have 4+ kids. Do to the budget and venue capacity if we would include the kids not very many adults would be able to attend. I think people are being very understanding and using our reception as a date night.
Post # 4
Well we had a smaller wedding so comparatively the one baby we had was a larger percentage of our total people. He did not count in the head count or chair count. They brought him his own high chair and he ate off of his mother’s plate. He was eight months old at the time and was great throughout the whole thing. In fact, he slept through quite a bit of the wedding, although I will add that he is a VERY well behaved child in general and hardly ever cries anyway. For reference, he was one out of fourteen people at the reception.
We did invite a five year old. She would have counted in the chair/head count but her meal would have been quite a bit cheaper because they said anyone under ten would be served a kids meal unless we requested otherwise. It was probably a fourth of what the regular meal cost.
Post # 5
Our venue actually restricts children ages 3 and under. We planned to have children at the wedding and most are 5 and over. After further discussion with our venue (a country club), this was the email they sent:
“It is typically our policy to limit the venue to no children under the age of 3. Due to the lack of high chairs and diaper changing facilities, we simply cannot accommodate young children. Our venue is typically adults only, but we do make exceptions for weddings and allowing children over the age of 3. If you do have guests with young children, we typically recommend the bride/groom arrange for outside babysitting services. If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask.”
So we’re ruffling some feathers – but no children 3 and under. Otherwise, our venue has a cheaper price for children under 10 years of age … but anyone 10 and older is charged the adult meal price.
Post # 6
We decided no children since we had such a large guest list. We just went to a wedding on Saturday that had about 4 children under 5 running around. My husbands family asked us about 20 times to bring our soon to be 3 year old – but to be honest I hate bringing my child to weddings – I don’t want to run after him the entire time.
Post # 7
We decided to have an adult reception simply because we dont think a wedding reception is a placefor children. But it does change the whole atmosphere of the event when there are a lot of children around. Its not your guests job to babysit….
Post # 8
I am inviting only 4 kids to the wedding. My 2 BM’s toddlers who are coming in from Out of Town for the wedding, and my 2 nieces one is 2 the other 6 months. I am not counting them in the meal or chair count.
I would think that the venue or caterers have a kids meal price. Mine does. I asked about chicken nuggest or a pasta dish, but then decided after my SIL and friends told me not to worry to just let the kids eat the regular food, or their parents will bring something for them.
Post # 9
Thanks for replies everyone! I totally didn’t even think about the high chair/diaper changing issue, which could be serious since most of the kids are under 2. That makes me lean much more towards no kids.