- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
We have been together 9 years
Me 42 he 45 we’ve a daughter 7 I’ve 2 from my ex husband
He cheated in me at the beginning then 3 years ago same ex I found out he cheated on most girlfriends
He has given me 4 engagement rings but this time it was meant to be different
We brought a business we lived apart for 2.5 years after he cheated in 2009 I said I can’t run a business without being married he agreed 100% we got engaged and wedding booked for December
Today is the third time he’s cancelled it in 6 months this time is as I wasn’t happy he didn’t communicate with me something to do with our business and I go in the Internet on my phone ?
I knew he didn’t want to marry me he never mentioned the wedding when it was talked about he didn’t seem interested.
I gave said if we don’t marry eventually we will split as we want different things I think I pushed him into it and the silly excuse to cancel it is simply his way if getting a reason not to.
I’m no 3 of his many girlfriends who wanted marriage but he left the others I feel he stats as our daughter & the business. We’ve talked he doesn’t say much other than he wants us to marry and he’s with me as he wants to be not as our daughter or business
He plans our future out together and so it seems he wants us to stay together but marriage he’s running from
His mum & Dad have been married 57 years his Brother 19 years
I’m confused really upset and so low I don’t know what to do
If we want different thing re a relationship how can it work and if I leave I’m homeless and jobless as the mortgage is in his name but the business in ours 1/2 the equity is ours each but it’s not enough to buy anywhere plus it could take years to sell
How do I cope with being rejected I’m in our bedroom keep crying and embarrassed having to tell the reverd he doesn’t want to marry me & cancelling the reception
How do you stay with someone who can’t commit fully?