Post # 1
My mother is graciously giving us $5,000 towards the cost our wedding. My father has agreed to give us “something”, although I know it will definitely be less than $5,000.
All of the decisions and planning has been done by me and my FH; my parents really haven’t been involved at all.
All in all, my parents will probably end up contributing 1/4 of the price of the wedding…maybe a little more.
Do you think it’s improper not to include the phrase “together with our parents” on our invitation…i.e. not mentioning my parents at all?
Post # 3
There are contributing, so I think you should include “together with their parents” on the invitation.
Post # 4
I think it’s a nice gesture…we’re paying for at least 90% of our wedding & we’re leaning towards including the “together with their parents” because our parents will be with us – therefore, “together”.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
If we were paying for the entire wedding ourselves, I still would have included my parents’ names unless I felt particularly strongly about making a statement to guests that we were hosting our own wedding. But even so, if they’re footing 1/4 of the bill, I think I’d include the language since they are partial hosts.
Post # 6
Even though his parents aren’t doing very much, we felt it was important to say “together with their families.”
Post # 7
I think you should put “together with their families” since they are helping out with the wedding.
Post # 8
My parents contributed a little (though not as much as 5k) to help with the dress and some of the smaller items, but we didn’t use the “together with our parents” line. I think it really depends on whether or not your families will be upset/offended by it and/or how important etiquette is to you and your families. We’re pretty non-traditional and footing most of the bill and nobody has commented on it to us at all.
Post # 9
How would you parents feel about not being included? I think you should include them expecially since they are contributing.
I know someone who did not include her parents on the invites (her parents gave them $15,000 towards the wedding) and the girls mother was VERY hurt by this. If you really don’t want it and your parents wouldn’t be bothered by the phrase then ok, but I think they should be included even if they really aren’t contributing much/at all. That’s just me.
Post # 10
I’m in a somewhat similar predicament. I’d say include them. Weddings are expensive, but they are contributing a decent chunk of change.
Post # 11
My parents are paying for the bulk of the wedding and his parents are chipping in, but P and I are paying as well doing ALL of the planning, so we’re going to use the “together with their parents” wording.
Post # 12
I totally understand because I’m slightly in the same situation. Right now on my invitation draft I have ” together with their families.”
I’m going to show both parents before I print them because I want their opinions on the matter too.
Post # 13
Our parents are contributing a few hundred dollars to the wedding and we have decided to use the phrase “together with their parents” as it just seemed to be the right thing to do. I don’t know your budget or your relationship with your family, but it seems like at least including that statement would be appropriate.
Post # 14
To me personally, 5k is a lot of money.. so I would definitely include the “together with our parents”
Post # 15
If they were not contributing the $5,000 + <$5000, would you be able to still have the same wedding? If the answer is no, then I think you should include them. If the answer is yes, then do what you want
Post # 16
My parents arent contributing anything as of yet, but his parents are, and we used “together with our parents” on the invitiation, not really because fo the money, but because we just think it sounds nice.