Post # 1
I’m ordering my invitations throught Minted.com right now. I chose a design where the default wording on top of the Ceremony card says “Together with their families, … & …. request your company at their wedding”, using third person.
When I got to the reception card, I noticed the top says “Join Us”, switching to first person.
I can change them to however I want, so which is the correct way? Their or Our? Wouldn’t it be weird changing to first person on the Ceremony card because it has our names on it? I want to be consistent on both the Ceremony and Reception cards.
Post # 3
Personally, I think it would be fine as it is – the invitation is usually in third person anyway, because there are usually so many different people “hosting” (e.g. bride, groom, bride’s parents, groom’s parents), as well as using more of a formal tone, given you probably won’t personally know everyone invited.
The reception card sounds good in first person, though. I’ve always thought of the reception as more of a personal, informal event than the actual ceremony. It’s really up to you, but I think it’ll be fine either way (who really reads invites anyway).
Post # 4
I promise nobody is going to notice or care. Only change it if it really bugs you.
You’ll be lucky if people even read stuff other than your names, the date, and location. Most invites are really just skimmed.
Post # 5
I think it’s just the tone that you want to convey, although like PP said, no one will really pick up on it but you.
Together with THEIR families = more formal (traditional)
Together with OUR families = more casual (familiar)
IMO, “join us” sounds somewhat familiar, so you can definitely swap it to “Our” and stick with “Join us”.
Post # 6
Ok thanks! I’ll just leave it how it is. This planning has been making me a little neurotic about everything lol.
Post # 7
@petitcupcake: Mine are like that, but I didn’t really notice until they were printed. It bugged me for a little bit, but I got over it, haha. Some details aren’t worth my fussing over.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I can relate, I’m kind of a grammar nazi. I am going to have all of ours in the first person, so I can say things like “join us” without it being incongruous. So it will say, “Together with our families, XXX and XXX invite you to share in our happiness as we unite in marriage” or something like that. (We’re also having a relatively informal affair, so that will be reflected on the invites, for what it’s worth.)