(Closed) Told family at 7 weeks – should I be nervous??

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

giaf1 :  It used to be standard advice not to share news of a prgenancy until after the first semester. But, when you think about it, that didn’t really make much sense. If something did go wrong, you would want your family’s support and understanding. It would be a lot easier for them to empathize if they knew you were pregnant, and didn’t have to learn about your pregnancy and miscarriage in the same breath.

Congratulations Bee!

 

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m in the same boat as you… We told family at 6 weeks after seeing the heartbeat. Just had my 7 week scan and everything still looks ok so we will most likely be telling friends next weekend at 8 weeks. I’ve heard the chance for a miscarriage goes way way down once you see the heartbeat so I’m just trying to stay positive and confident about it! 🙂 congrats!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

giaf1 :  We just saw the heartbeat flicker before we told our families. The doctor was like “see that little flicker? That’s the heartbeat!” And that was it.

The doctor didn’t tell us the bpm until 7 weeks, but that was after we told family.  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I told my mom and sister as soon as I found out and other close family at 8w. I’d want their support if something happened and fortunately nothing did!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We are telling immediate family at 7 weeks as well, and I won’t have even had my first doctors appointment yet much less an ultrasound (which I probably won’t get until close to 12 weeks). It’s a bit sooner than I’d like but we have all parents in the same place at the same time by fluke, and we would want their support if anything went wrong anyway. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We told our parents and siblings at 5 weeks before we’d even had the ultrasound. They understand its early days and things might not work out, and they were so happy we shared our news. I’d be fine with telling them if the worst happened so it wasn’t a big deal in my mind. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We told our immediate family when we got our BFP so around 4w. We annouced to everyone else at 9w. We’re 26w tomorrow and still going strong. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We told family gradually from 4w4d to 12 weeks. We told my parents on Father’s Day at 4w4d because I know my mom had a miscarriage in between me and my brother, so I’d be able to really count on the for support if we had one. We told my maternal grandparents at 6 weeks, because my grandfather was very unwell, he passed away exactly one week later. We told my paternal grandparents at 8 weeks, my grandma was about to book expensive plane tickets to visit us in October but I’m due at the end of February, her trip is now booked for March. We told the rest of the family at 12 weeks.

 

We also told a few close friends early on for the same reason as my parents, we’d want their support. Additionally my two direct coworkers knew right away as well, they needed to cover for me several times so I could hide out in the bathroom, my morning sickness was bad enough that I needed prescription medication for it. We told more people early on that we had planned, but I don’t regret it. Fortunately I’m now at 16 weeks, so of course I can’t say if I’d have felt differently if I’d miscarried.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I have always told whoever I would tell if I had a miscarriage, and was sad and wanted suport.  I have 3 children an have had 3 miscarriages.  That said, my support network is pretty tight, so it ws just our parents and my best friend.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I told my mom and my 2 best friends as soon as I got a positive test for each of my pregnancies.

We told the rest of my  and his immediate family at 8 weeks because my in-laws are nosy AF and I didn’t want to deal with the constant questions if I skipped wine with dinner. Plus I was feeling pretty run down and sick, I just knew they’d guess and not let it go. That’s what happened with my first pregnancy and it took all the joy out of telling them on our own time. I would have preferred to wait but oh well. It’s a personal choice so do what feels right for you. 

Oh, everyone else (extended family and friends) was told at 13-14 weeks. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

If you are comfortable leaning on family for support if you need it then there is no reason to withhold anything. Congratulations!

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