Post # 1
We’ve been together for 7.5 years and are now finishing up college. When we first started, I told him that I didn’t want him to propose because it’s embarrassing, don’t want the attention, etc, and this kind of upset him but he seemed to accept it. I know he wouldn’t propose until he had a stable fulltime time, but I now wouldn’t mind if he proposed. How should I tell him this? I have one stipulation: don’t do it in front of my family. I just feel awkward bringing it up because I don’t want him to think I want him to do it now, which would make no sense to do. How do I go about this, ladies? Or gents.
Post # 3
you definitely should tell him. Just say that you thought about it and the reason you really didn’t want him to propose originally was because you didn’t want to be embarassed, but the more you think about it, the more you realize that would only happen if it was in public or around other people. So now you DO want a proposal, just a very private one 🙂 If he was upset about you telling him you didn’t want a proposal in the first place, he will probably be happy to hear you say that.
ETA: If you’re looking for a way to bring it up without it being awkward and out of nowhere, start talking about a friend’s engagement or something, or that you “saw a proposal online” or someting like that. Then it seems like you weren’t just sitting there dwelling on it, but something you saw triggered it. Does that make sense?
Post # 4
@LilliePad: I wouldn’t even mind if it was public. I wish he’d do it at my favorite place, an art museum in NYC. I just don’t want to sound like I’m being impatient about it because I want to wait at least a year for him to propose. I just don’t want him to think I never want it.
Post # 5
Since this is a double post, I’m going to go ahead and close this one and refer everyone here:
Repost: Told him I didn't want him to propose. Changed my mind