(Closed) Tongue in Cheek Rant, Real Problem, DMMBYM! – COD: Modern Warfare 2

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

It is SO HARD. I am so, so sorry to hear this. I am remembering how it was for me and cringing.

My last boyfriend played this game constantly. That was not the reason I left him by any means, but it was defnitely not a postive thing in our relationship, either.

I felt like we were roommates towards the end rather than boyfriend and girlfriend!! I tried to keep myself busy by reading a book, but it always felt like I was in a war zone because of the sounds.

I am terribly sorry I have no words of advice. The game made me feel unwelcome in my own home! It was as if I was shunned into the other room if I didn’t want to hear the noise of it. It forced us to be apart from each other, which I did not enjoy.

I was cooking, cleaning, being a full time student etc, etc, while he was smoking pot, playing this game, and hanging out with his buddies. Seriously, that was our life together.

This website, GamerWidow.com might be helpful..

Good luck, and you know you always have you Bees when you need them 🙂 🙂

Post # 4
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5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Argh, that would frustrate me to no end! R used to be really big into video games, but he stopped after high school. I’m so glad! It really is an obsession with some people. Future Brother-In-Law was unemployed for months and literally would sit at home and play XBox360 – the house was a sty, he didn’t bother looking for jobs, etc. Video games have some weird addictive power…

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yes I totally understand where you are coming from….I gifted the PS3 on Christmas and then FH bought the game himself and now it is like non-stop I started giving some limitations bc it’s ridiculous and there is apparently an option to play a quick game which really isn’t that quick….ugh so sick of listening to bombs, guns and ppl getting killed lol I feel your pain this game needs to be banned!!

Post # 6
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance won’t even buy the game because he knows he’ll become obsessed and I’ll be pissed! lol  I feel kinda bad about it though.. but I know how he is with video games, it’s sick.  I don’t understand how they can play it forever like that!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My ex was addicted to the damn XBOX live. There was no stopping him. I would talk about it endlessly but he would always revert back to using it for hours a day. My solution was dumping him! My amazingly lovely Fiance doesn’t like to play video games, unless I play with him 🙂

I think you need to try to have a good chat with him and let him know that you feel that he is priortising the XBOX over your relationship. Hopefully then he can work on a playing schedule that is less obtrusive.

Post # 8
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My husband goes through phases where he becomes addicted to cod, and then we get into a big fight about it, and then he stops for a few months… and then starts again. It’s a vicious cycle. I made him get some headphones so I don’t have to listen to it anymore. Good luck… I feel your pain.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

my ex-FI was addicted to NFL Fever on XBox. It was so bad that when I would come to visit him (we were in a long distance relationship at one point)… he wouldn’t even put down the game to welcome me at the door.  I would often get up in the middle of the night to an empty bed and he playing the game in the other room.  It became a source of many arguments which lead me to leaving him.  You have to have those little moments together even if it is cleaning the house or playing with the dog.  When you take those things away not much left to do or say to each other.

YOU need to get rid of the game ASAP or set some type of schedule.  Video games are not allowed at my house which thankfully my wonderful Fiance doesn’t care to play those games!  He’d rather go take the dog for a walk or help me plant tulips in the yard.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Our PS3 broke thannnkkk the lord lol so I haven’t seen that game in a month!! But with taxes coming back which is a yayyy/boo since we will be getting a new one of course *rolls eyes*. I totally feel like I am single when that game is on…I could be doing naked kart wheels infront of my Fiance and he wouldn’t notice lol 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Both my boyfriend and I got addicted to a video game and we just quit 3 months ago.  It’s amazing the power that it has over you.  Atleast we played together so it wasn’t like he was abandoning me to play it, but it was still ridiculous the hours we wasted on it.  We made a pact to NEVER go back to that lifestyle again.  And yes, my apartment was a MESS during the time that we played this game.  I still can’t believe that I ever got into it. 

He still plays other games from time to time, but he only plays games that he can hit the PAUSE button on or that he can “get to a save point” with in 3-5 minutes if I call him for dinner or need him to do something.  I think the biggest thing is learning moderation.  He will always get off the game if I ask him too and he usually only plays now for an hour or so a day which is so much better.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hm…gotta say I disagree. Guys need their game time with their (xbox live) friends. It’s just a guy thing though.

I can understand how people who don’t play games very much don’t see the draw or how somebody can sit there so long and ignore everything.

Then again, my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I actually have to call dibs on the TV and Xbox or PS3. I’ll sit there and play Bioshock 2 for 4 or 5 hours at a time myself!

I just give the boy like 30 minutes advanced warning to turn it off, and we’re fine. Telling somebody to turn off the game in the middle of a round is just mean and a little rude, IMO. I don’t care WHO you are. It’s the equivalent of telling a girl to get out of the dressing room when she hasn’t even put her own clothes on yet!

Bottomline, just because he’s doing it in your living room and not out at a bar doesn’t mean he’s not having a “guys night”. He is. He’s just doing it in his favorite chair. A lot of the new games coming out MAKE it this way – you can’t play 2 player with somebody sitting next to you, only over the online network, so that doesn’t help.

And as far as the sex life goes, if he REALLY won’t get off the game and I’m not willing to wait, I go over, start kissing him up and sit in his lap, and the game is off within 2 minutes, middle of the round or NOT. If he picks a game over a girl in front of him, then there’s more wrong than gaming marathons…

 

Sorry if I ranted a bit, but I really hate it when people diss on gamers playing a lot since I’m one of those people myself. People outside the community just don’t get it.

Post # 13
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@pharmy: I disagree with your ‘It’s just a guy thing though’ comment. The majority of guys I know don’t spend endless hours ignoring their spouses playing video games. I think the ‘it’s just a guy thing’ thought pattern is ridiculous and gives men excuses to act like db’s and little boys.

Post # 14
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

um, if it took a girl 5,6,7,8 hours to get out of the dressing room, I would assume she had some issues. My husband has freely admitted that he has a cod addiction and it’s something he is working on. There is nothing normal or healthy about it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Agree with Emshaw 100%. There’s a difference between playing a few rounds on a Saturday afternoon or Wednesday evening, and playing 40 rounds a night, being too tired to have sex, miss work or whatever.

Honestly? I’d ask him if he’d agree to one week (or two weeks if you can get it!) without it, and in that week, do all kinds of stuff to make him change his mind–bake him treats, cook him amazing dinners, give him back massages, whatever… and see if that doesn’t make him reconsider playing constantly.

If he can’t give up one week, he’s got a real problem. Steal one of the cords to the PS3/Xbox and hide it. At the very least, he’d spend a day or two without it, right? That might be a wakeup call…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think there’s a difference between just playing alot and between playing to the point where you’re ignoring your spouse and other responsibilities.  If you can’t manage your playtime with other life responsibilities then you have issues.  If you just like to “play a lot” but it’s manageable that’s different.  The thing was, when I played WOW I couldn’t not manage my other life responsibilities because I wanted my character to be perfect.  I had a problem I had to quit.  Video games are made that way, it’s easy to get addicted.

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