Post # 1
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Bumble bee
A bit of a different issue…Do you ever worry that your e-ring is too big? Have you ever received any negative comments? I mean less in an aesthetic sense, and more on how its perceived as a status/money/social symbol.
Mine is a 1.1 ( on 4.5 finger) solitaire and I know that its not that large in comparisson to a lot of rings on here but I still worry a bit about this.
My circle of friends are mostly students and most are very socialy conscious so I feel a bit uneasy with a diamond as it is. A friend of mine recently got a bit of a nasty comment on her ring ( a person shaming her saying “your ring could feed an african village” )
I absolutely adore my ring but worry that some may see it as too flashy.
Do you ever worry that your ring is too big? I am especialy interested in those who work in public jobs, working with lots of different kinds of people, and people with alternative lifestyles that may judge this more so.
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
no such thing – bigger the better for me, ive already upgraded twice and will upgrade again later on
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Nope! Don’t worry, don’t care.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
Same here…. All that matters to me is when I look down at it that it makes me happy!!!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@eloping: I’m with you. Too big is a figment of the imagination IMO! lol
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I sometimes have the same questions that you do. I am also friends with lots of students. I had one friend ask how much it was (i told her I didn’t know) and I felt like that was very rude. I have had people look at my ring and ask what Fiance does for a living and that makes me uncomfortable.
I was at lunch with some students shortly after I was engaged. One of the girls asked how I liked my ring. I stated that I love it but I think the ring could be too small for my finger. I was talking about the actual ring size, not the diamond. I got dirty looks from every girl at the table and one girl called me out on it. She said, “You must have a problem because your ring is HUGE.” I was so embarrased and had to explain that I was talking about the band fitting tightly on my finger. :/ So embarrasing.
My ring btw is 1.24 center stone and half carat of little diamonds on the band. I don’t know if it’s pave, but if it isn’t, it’s similar. I don’t really think my ring is huge or anything. I think it’s just larger than my friends’ so they may think it’s way big. I never posted any pics on facebook or anything like that.
As for working with the public: I do NOT wear my ring to work. I am in a hospital taking care of patients all day…many different people from all walks of life…some are very very poor and all are very very ill. I have accidently worn it and I will notice patients staring at it when I am speaking to them. I feel it is completely inappropriate for that setting (not to mention I don’t like putting on and taking off gloves with it). I am going to just wear my wedding band to work when I get that. It will have diamonds, but not a super sparkly one standing out to everyone.
For the most part, I now wear my ring with confidence. It took me several months to get used to it though. When someone wants to look at it, I show them and I wear it proud!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I do not worry about it. It seems that no matter what you do you’re always going to offend SOMEONE so I don’t see a point in giving up things I like for other people.
On a side note it really angers me when people try to make you feel guilty about what you spend your money on. I donate money and volunteer time to charities I care about, and frankly don’t need someone on a soap box telling me how I or my fiance should have spent our money.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
1.1 on a 4.5 is NOT to big or flashy- it’s perfect!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@6598731ssfse3: Totally agree. What I do with my money (or what Fiance does with his money) is no one else’s business but my own.
To me, my ring is not big at all but I’ve gotten a few snarky comments (mostly “is it real?” what does your fiance DO?! gosh that must’ve cost a pretty penny!) depending on where I am, which are annoying, but I don’t get offended. There will always be people with larger diamonds and people with smaller diamonds. 1.1ct is a great weight! Wear it well!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I wonder about this too! Especially with the safety aspect: do any city Bees ever feel uncomfortable walking around with a noticable stone?
A friend of my mother’s was followed home and beaten and robbed after someone saw her large engagement ring at a 7-Eleven. She and her husband both were hospitalized, he never recovered and died, she has never been the same (physically or emotionally). She is convinced it was because of her big ring, that it was a target for these guys.
So that horrible story is hopefully very rare but it still makes me worry a bit. Darling Husband just put a deposit down on a 1.5 ct stone and I wonder if I’ll feel uncomfortable wearing it around my city!
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
An e-ring that’s too big? What’s that?
Post # 14
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Helper bee
^^^ I second @baystatebride!
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
No such thing as too big when it comes to diamonds!
Post # 16
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Helper bee
Oh and OP I can not *believe* someone said that to your friend! What a horrible, douchebag comment. So rude. If YOU do not have any ethical concerns about your diamond, wear it proudly and just ignore anyone rude enough to comment about their own values.
