(Closed) too big e-ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: do you worry that your ring is perceived as too big?
    yes : (21 votes)
    11 %
    no : (76 votes)
    42 %
    sometimes : (29 votes)
    16 %
    are you nuts? (no such thing!) : (57 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    no such thing – bigger the better for me, ive already upgraded twice and will upgrade again later on

    Post # 4
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Nope! Don’t worry, don’t care.

    Post # 5
    8422 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Same here…. All that matters to me is when I look down at it that it makes me happy!!!

    Post # 6
    3451 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I couldn’t care less.

    Post # 7
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @eloping:  I’m with you. Too big is a figment of the imagination IMO! lol

    Post # 8
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I sometimes have the same questions that you do. I am also friends with lots of students. I had one friend ask how much it was (i told her I didn’t know) and I felt like that was very rude. I have had people look at my ring and ask what Fiance does for a living and that makes me uncomfortable.

    I was at lunch with some students shortly after I was engaged. One of the girls asked how I liked my ring. I stated that I love it but I think the ring could be too small for my finger. I was talking about the actual ring size, not the diamond. I got dirty looks from every girl at the table and one girl called me out on it. She said, “You must have a problem because your ring is HUGE.” I was so embarrased and had to explain that I was talking about the band fitting tightly on my finger. :/ So embarrasing.

    My ring btw is 1.24 center stone and half carat of little diamonds on the band. I don’t know if it’s pave, but if it isn’t, it’s similar. I don’t really think my ring is huge or anything. I think it’s just larger than my friends’ so they may think it’s way big. I never posted any pics on facebook or anything like that.

    As for working with the public: I do NOT wear my ring to work. I am in a hospital taking care of patients all day…many different people from all walks of life…some are very very poor and all are very very ill. I have accidently worn it and I will notice patients staring at it when I am speaking to them. I feel it is completely inappropriate for that setting (not to mention I don’t like putting on and taking off gloves with it). I am going to just wear my wedding band to work when I get that. It will have diamonds, but not a super sparkly one standing out to everyone.

    For the most part, I now wear my ring with confidence. It took me several months to get used to it though. When someone wants to look at it, I show them and I wear it proud!

    Post # 9
    3063 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I do not worry about it. It seems that no matter what you do you’re always going to offend SOMEONE so I don’t see a point in giving up things I like for other people. 

    On a side note it really angers me when people try to make you feel guilty about what you spend your money on. I donate money and volunteer time to charities I care about, and frankly don’t need someone on a soap box telling me how I or my fiance should have spent our money.

    Post # 10
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    1.1 on a 4.5 is NOT to big or flashy- it’s perfect!

    Post # 11
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @6598731ssfse3:  Totally agree. What I do with my money (or what Fiance does with his money) is no one else’s business but my own.

    To me, my ring is not big at all but I’ve gotten a few snarky comments (mostly “is it real?” what does your fiance DO?! gosh that must’ve cost a pretty penny!) depending on where I am, which are annoying, but I don’t get offended. There will always be people with larger diamonds and people with smaller diamonds. 1.1ct is a great weight! Wear it well! 

    Post # 12
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I wonder about this too! Especially with the safety aspect: do any city Bees ever feel uncomfortable walking around with a noticable stone?

    A friend of my mother’s was followed home and beaten and robbed after someone saw her large engagement ring at a 7-Eleven. She and her husband both were hospitalized, he never recovered and died, she has never been the same (physically or emotionally). She is convinced it was because of her big ring, that it was a target for these guys.

    So that horrible story is hopefully very rare but it still makes me worry a bit. Darling Husband just put a deposit down on a 1.5 ct stone and I wonder if I’ll feel uncomfortable wearing it around my city!

    Post # 13
    6247 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    An e-ring that’s too big?  What’s that? 



    Post # 14
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    ^^^ I second @baystatebride!

    Post # 15
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    No such thing as too big when it comes to diamonds!

    Post # 16
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Oh and OP I can not *believe* someone said that to your friend! What a horrible, douchebag comment. So rude. If YOU do not have any ethical concerns about your diamond, wear it proudly and just ignore anyone rude enough to comment about their own values.

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