Too Big for a Bikini

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 76
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

cmsgirl :  

I will tell you a secret, just between you and me.  I figured this out after many, many decades on this planet.  People don’t look at us or judge us as much as we think they do.  Everyone is pretty much into their own crap.  Even the lithe twenty somethings on the beach are busy fretting over some flaw, both real and imaginary, or comparing themselves to other women.

So, wear whateverthehell you want that you like.  We judge ourselves far more harshly than most strangers do.  And when you do run into someone who has nothing better to do than criticize you, just know they’re operating from a place of deep insecurity.  Healthy, confident people don’t feel the need to demean others.

Post # 77
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sassy411 :  Im in my mid 30s and I know all this rationally and am pretty comfortable in my own skin until I get into a pair of bathers. Bathers just throw me over the edge… I am getting better with it though as I get older. In regards to confidence, I used to practice the fake it until you make it motto in my younger days. These days im not faking it unless I’m on the beach in bathers!!! I’m certain i’ll get there too in beach attire at some point in the next few years… wink

Post # 78
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

cmsgirl :  

Yup.  The older I get, the less I give a crap what other people think.

It’s one of the very few perks of aging.

Post # 79
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Busy bee

I agree with wear whatever you are comfortable in. Honestly there will always be some people who will look at you and judge whether you have a “conventionally smokin’ ” body or have a little more to love. Personally, I’m not comfortable letting rolls and stuff hang out; I’m personally not comfortable with how it looks, but that’s just me. That being said, I do still wear bikinis but only high waisted bottoms to keep in the tummy and love handles. I’m short (under 5 feet) and about 119 pounds but I’ve been wearing high waisted bottoms since I was about 107. I was only comfortable in a regular bikini when I was 97 pounds. (“Normal” weight range for my height is 91-122.)

Post # 82
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Helper bee

whoops responded to the wrong person

Post # 83
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443 posts
Helper bee

littlemissdimsum :  I have scoliosis too!  Just had to say it because it’s not often anyone else mentions it! 

Post # 84
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

After reading this thread I’ve decided that for the rest of the summer I will only wear bikini tops and leggings. laughing

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

jannigirl :  Good point – but I was thinking more like worst case senario and used FB as an example, putting it another way; how do I personally feel in what I am about to wear, and beyond that how would i feel if I ran into my adult daughter , co workers, church friends etc wearing it.  

Like I said – there are bikinis and then there are Bikinis (itty bitty) and like the pictures posted above – some women have amazing curves in all sizes.  

Post # 86
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Busy bee

I have never had the confidence for a bikini. I would need to lose 10-20 lbs to think about wearing one.

Post # 87
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Busy bee

Everyone carries their weight differently. That being said, I find one pieces very unflattering on me and I prefer bikinis. 

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It’s really sad to see women think they are too fat to wear a bikini. I’ve struggled with body image issues for most of my life. I’ve put on like 25 pounds over the past 5 years and on my 5’1 frame it shows. Whenever I would see a woman in a bikini, no matter her size, I would admire her confidence and think to myself “I want to be like her!” I went on my honeymoon (shout out to Mexico!) 3 weeks ago and bought a bikini. I even bought a thong bikini in case I got brave enough to wear it. I wore it and pushed any self doubts away and I can tell you it’s very liberating! Here’s a picture from a few years ago (about 125-130) and me now (150) on my honeymoon. The body shaming has to stop.

(Sorry for the sideways picture)

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

milksteak :  You look great! And I love your bikini!

Post # 90
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Busy bee

penny1403 :  I mean. I can be 5’6, 160 (Overweight by bmi standards)… a size 10… and people have the audacity to say I look like a twig/chicken legs (I am a big boned girl) …. large top (36d-DD) and bottom… and therefore I cannot say that a size 6 or less is most appropriate. A size 6 on my frame has people questioning if I am even eating/starving myself. Is that wrong of them to say, yes… but think about it…. You said a size 8 is not appropiate.

Why your comment is wildly offensive. Point is… all shapes and sizes can fit in to a size 2 up and it looks extremely different for each person. 

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