Too Big for a Bikini

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 106
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Bumble bee

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TinderBoxx :  I have zero desire to get to know anyone who thinks it’s appropriate to fat shame me for wanting to wear a swimsuit. I don’t particularly give a crap, you don’t like it don’t look. You want to fat shame people don’t expect me or a lot of other bees to like or respect you. 

Post # 107
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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TinderBoxx :  you’re looking at this completely wrong. This is not something you can quantify as “extreme” or “moderate.” What I’m saying is people do not have to meet your criteria to earn the right to be happy. If wearing a bikini or leggings or a fly ass dress makes a 250 lb woman happy, she doesn’t need to check with you first. It’s none of your business. Why should that woman not wear what she likes because it makes you uncomfortable? That’s like saying two men shouldn’t be able to get married because you can’t stand seeing them kiss. That’s none of your business. It does not affect you. People do not exist for your enjoyment. Just because you don’t enjoy seeing a 250 lb woman in a bikini does not mean she shouldn’t do it. Stop thinking you have a right to other people’s bodies.

Post # 108
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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beachykeenbee :  By ‘Put to shame’ I meant “I was much more in demand with artists because curvy girls are more challenging to draw…” at least that’s what I was told over and over by students 🙂 So I can see this fom both sides. By 1880’s European beauty standards I’d be a tad underweight. Things change all the time. I am happy curviness is back in style- I’ve always appreciated it. But freedom comes with responsibility, and our freedom of what to wear at the beach CAN be tempered with what we like, what looks good, what is cut well…etc. 

Post # 110
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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beachykeenbee :  Thanks for finally agreeing.

 

I’ve been on the bee for ten years, and  never a harsh word until now from anyone…when you disagree all kind of randoms go buck wild.

Post # 111
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Busy bee

Truth is, when you are on your death bed… you are going to realize how stupid this all was. So wear whatever the hell you feel comfortable in. And if you are worried about the girl being too big in a bikini on the beach… then you are NOT enjoying life like you should. 

Savor the moments you are in… or worry about the dimples and stretch marks on another girl’s rear. Up to you.

Post # 112
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

I agree that certain cuts, material, patterns, etc. can be more or less flattering on different body types, but here’s the thing…. we aren’t all trying to look flattering to everybody all the time. Sometimes you just want to wear clothes that are comfortable, functional, or pretty. Are my arms tank top worthy? Maybe not, but I live in Florida and it’s hot dammit. I look pretty bad in shorts and spent years wearing long pants and maxi skirts/dresses through the Florida summer, but last year I finally just said fuck it, I’m wearing shorts and being comfortable, people can deal with their own issues with my cellulite and spider veins. If someone is at the beach lounging and swimming and they feel most comfortable in a bikini, more power to them, it’s not a fashion show it’s a recreational activity.

Post # 113
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Sugar bee

I was always in bikinis and then for some reason last year, I decided to buy a one piece. It was fine, but I missed the convenience of a bikini, so beyond the one trip, I never wore the one piece again. At my biggest, I was probably a size 12 and wore bikinis. 

Post # 114
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Busy bee

I think you should wear a bikini if you are comfortable at any size, showing any type of scars, etc. I’ve never been comfortable in a bikini, not when I was a little girl, not now, not at size 4 or size 10. So I’ve never worn one out in public. It’s just not me. Everyone should wear what they are comfortable in. 

Post # 115
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Bumble bee

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itsachickenwingthing :  exactly, I’ve never wanted to look back at photos and memories and think why am I not running on the beach with my family, or why am I wearing a t shirt at a pool party. There are obviously things I can’t do safely because of my size, but I don’t want my daughter to grow up remembering a life of mom on the side lines never joining in the fun.

If that means I strap on a bikini and go and live my life snorkelling who does it hurt? 

Post # 116
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

The thing is, no one owes anyone a toned body or tight abs or a petite figure. It’s not up to me to keep my legs covered because of celulite or forgo a bikini because I’m “too big” for other people. I don’t have that responsibility. If someone doesn’t want to see certain people in bikinis, it’s up to them to stop going to the beach or out in public. That’s your problem, not mine.

Post # 117
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Unfortunately bikini versus one piece doesn’t change the fact that my thighs and butt are the body parts I hate exposing. I usually wear a bikini with board shorts at the beach to hide my thighs and a one piece for racing/training. When I compete in open water swimming I wear a wetsuit which is probably the least flattering garment ever invented.

Post # 118
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Bumble bee

I feel a bit uncomfortable in bikinis, like I’m in my underwear in front of random people at the beach! But that’s just me. I don’t think size has much to do with it, I’m a lanky US size 0 (AU 6) and I often don’t feel curvy enough for swimwear to look flattering on me lol. Many of my bigger friends pull off bikinis better than I do, they have hips and boobs, and the whole thing just looks way better imo. 

Post # 119
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I live by the beach, I’m a size four(ish? I’m aussie) in US and i usually wear a bikini because it’s comfortable, though i do often feel pretty insecure in it.  I also have pcos which gives me way too much body hair which requires immaculate grooming to wear a bikini 😣

I think anyone should rock a bikini! Sure some look more attractive than others in a bikini to me (in a straight way lol), but so what? Doesn’t affect me.  

I also believe in free the nip! I have so many close calls trying to reign the girls in, I wish it wasn’t so stressful and i could run around with tits out haha.

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