(Closed) Too Casual for Outdoor Wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Love number 2!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think the shoes you’re considering are all pretty and would be fine for your casual outdoor wedding.

My question is, why do all of these individuals, aside from your Fiance, believe that they should have a “vote” regarding the bridesmaids’ attire?

Although it is wonderful when a bride is considerate of her bridesmaids’ tastes and concerns, bridesmaids should be willing to accommodate the bride’s vision unless that vision would result in a significant problem for the bridesmaids, not just a different vision. (For example, a larger chested bridesmaid should not be forced to wear a dress that is too revealing or cannot be worn with an appropriate, supportive undergarment, or a bridesmaid who does not wish to expose too much of her legs should not be asked to wear a skirt that is too short. Or a bridesmaid who has problems with her feet should not be asked to wear a heel height that would cause problems for her.) However, wearing different shades of the same color, or purchasing wedges instead of stiletto heels, or being permitted to wear different styles of shoes instead of uncomfortable, satin matching ones should not be the decision of your Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law or even your own mother.

Although it is quite nice of you to be willing to take into consideration the ideas they are recommending, you should not have to abdicate your own vision in favor of theirs.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Those are very cute. Why can’t you just let everyone pick the shoes they want and if some are matchy and some aren’t who cares? It doesn’t sound like you mind if they don’t match. I personally wouldn’t go with dyeable shoes because I’ve heard they can bleed if the ground is wet.

I think yellow shoes will be particularily difficult to find but not impossible. I’d let them get what they feel comfortable in that color, even if it is dyeable.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i love them all!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No one in my family really “sees” my vision because I am so different and don’t want the traditional wedding they want. It’s been tough. I’ve mainly had to make decisions and do most of the planning all on my own. Even Fiance wants a traditional wedding but that’s only because he’s not an outside the box thinker and only wants to do what’s already been done. Be true to yourself or else you are going to have a wedding you are going to regret. I LOVE the wedge shoes btw!!! I would go for it!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MsBlackberry:  Well, it sounds as if you and your Fiance have reached a good compromise and that you’re well on your way to compromising with your Future Sister-In-Law as well. That’s good! 🙂

By the way, for the record, I was an older bride and had a very classic, elegant, ultra-formal, evening wedding with my bridesmaids all in the same, long, strapless, iridescent-silk-taffeta, trumpet-style dress (junior bridesmaids were in a coordinating dress), and my Darling Husband and all of the goomsmen were in the same very formal, black, full-dress tails with white tie, shirt and vest.  I’m guessing your mother and Future Mother-In-Law would have LOVED my wedding, lol. 

Yet, now that I’ve seen pics of some of the absolutely GORGEOUS, mismatched looks of other bees’ weddings on Weddingbee, I’ve come to also appreciate the sophistication and fashion involved in that style at well. In fact, my own DSD had mismatched bridesmaids dresses all in the same color in her wedding a few months ago, and the look was fabulous. 

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