(Closed) Too Early for Invites?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes, I’d find it weird to get an invitation so early and imagine many guests would lose it between now and October. Your situation sounds like what save the dates were made for: Letting guests know the date and city where the wedding will be held so they can start making travel plans. Are you completely against sending save the dates? If you’re worried about cost, I got postcards printed at Vistaprint that were ridiculously cheap. I’m on a very small budget but thought that was worth the expense. I think we spent around $10 for 50 custom postcards and that included shipping. Most of my portion of the guest list is coming from out of town so I thought it was polite to let them know as early as possible. My out of town family started making travel plans last October for my May wedding since they got those save the dates. Just keep an eye out for deals from Vistaprint, follow them on Facebook or sign up for emails and you’ll get frequent offers from them.

If you don’t want to send save the dates, contact your VIPs by phone, text, email, whatever to let them know about your plans. But really, save the dates are best for your situation.

Invitations should go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. 

Post # 3
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969 posts
Busy bee

Invites should be sent out 2-3 months before the wedding.  Save the dates can be sent out 4-6 months before the wedding.  Anything sooner than that for (the invites or the STDs) is just weird and confusing.  It’d be way too easy for people to forget about your wedding if you were to send the invites out now, 8 months before the Big Day.  I know it’s exciting, but hold off on sending them out until a more appropriate time.

Post # 4
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697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes, I think sending out invitations out in March is way too early. If you plan on not sending out STD’s, than I would probably send them out in June or July. My wedding is at the end of May and about 90% of our guests are from out of town as well and have to travel quite a bit to come to our wedding. We decided not to send out STD’s either and will be sending out our invitations by the end of this month. Generally, that’s considered early too… But because we aren’t sending out STD’s and because most of our guest live further away, we want to make sure they don’t make other plans and can have enough time to create travel arrangements. So generally for your situation, I think sending out your invitations about 3 to 4 months from your wedding day is good.

 

Edit: If your Fiance really wants to send something out now and not to wait then I would reconsider sending out Save The Dates and then send your invitations out in the regular timeline of 2-3 months before your wedding.

Post # 5
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4076 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We’re also getting married this October and are just about to send out our save the dates. It’s way too early to get invites out (ours have already arrived, but will go out in August). Since you are having a semi-destination wedding, I would absolutely send save the dates. You can get them fairly inexpensively on Vistaprint and other sites.

Post # 6
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1094 posts
Bumble bee

WAY too early. 
If I got an invitation that early, I would probably forget about it, or it would just get lost in the shuffle.

I am getting married in June and I am not even sending out my invitations till April

I did however send out Save the Dates as our venue is a couple hours away from the city where we live.

I would reconsider sending out save the dates, and send those out around April- May 

Post # 7
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would not send the invites now.  A lot can change in peoples lives between now and then.  I think in this situation you need to order and send Save the Dates with an insert about any travel information.  If you need to do it soon, Vistaprint has some great Save the Date options and are very quick to print and ship. 

Post # 8
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6915 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Waaay too early. I get that you’re not sending Save the Dates, but if I got an actual wedding invitation 6 months in advance I’d be super confused. I would probably completely forget about it by the RSVP deadline. 

Post # 9
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6523 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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steny03:  way too early. I had my wedding in September and sent my invites out in early July

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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steny03:  It’s way too early. Why dont you do Save the Dates? You could even do “email” Save the Dates…would save time and money and would allow your guests who are traveling to know details. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You’re not seriously debating sending invitations for an October wedding in March, right? 

The guideline is six to eight WEEKS, not six to eight months.

Save the dates are a thing for a reason if you’re that worried about guests’ travel.

Post # 12
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2134 posts
Buzzing bee

We skipped Save-The-Date Cards. Wedding is in June and we sent them out early (end of January).  98% of our guests are from out of town, so that’s how I justified it. 

We’ve also gotten several RSVPs back already. We did them madlib style! Also, we are not doing a plated meal so not a big deal.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

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steny03:  I’ve had all my invites ready to go since last August, so I was tired of looking at them. We just sent them early..do what you want! i don’t care about etiquette. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

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steny03:  LOL  Being anti-STDs is not weird at all!  We didn’t do them, either.  We simply sent out our invites sooner than most people do who also send out Save-The-Date Cards.  It was a timeline compromise.  😛

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