Post # 1
We have a date for the wedding…it’s 18 month away! I am going to have a Maid and Matron of Honor. I already asked my MaidOH because I just couldnt wait anymore! And since she was already helping me plan and research things etc. Am going to ask my Matron as soon as I get the opportunity! (They all live far away and I made a little video to ask them, but I’m trying to be nonchalant about it so waiting until we talk online)
I was initally going to wait until September, a year from the wedding, to ask the rest of the BM’s since everywhere I’ve read it says not to ask too early. But they have all been my good friends for years and its not going to change in 6 months…So is it too early to ask now/in the next couple months?
Post # 3
If you are 100% certain that nothing could change, I say go for it. If it was at all difficult to choose your BMs, then I’d wait. I’m personally waiting a little longer to ask. Good luck!
Post # 4
We had a longer engagement, so I also asked my girls about 1.5 years before the wedding. The girls I was asking were people who I was in contact with regularly, and I didn’t expect those relationships to shift too much between then and the wedding. And they didn’t. So the timing worked for me, but I can understand how it wouldn’t work for everyone.
Post # 5
Only speaking from personal experience, I would only ask the girls who are family for now.
If you asked me a year ago, I would have sworn on my life that my relationship with one of my bridesmaids would not have changed – but OH BOY has it, and now i’m stuck. And because I don’t have the heart to “fire” her, I’m going to have her in my wedding pictures forever…
It also popped up that one of my cousins who originally thought she’d be away at boarding school (the only reason I didnt ask her instead of the friend above) starts school 2 weeks later next year, so she’ll be around after all. So now not only am I stuck with a girl I don’t really want to be friends with anymore, I also have more bridesmaids than I originally wanted too.
All of this would have been prevented by me waiting until the 1 year mark. So far that is my ONLY wedding planning regret.
Post # 6
Hmmm…good advice! I’ll probably wait until its a year out…at least i got my Maid and Matron to gush about things with!