Post # 1
I Everyone! This is my very first post but I have been religiously revisiting the site for about a year now. After reading a few boards on early engagement and other peoples situations on being perhaps “too young”, I felt better about my own situation but still don’t feel content until I get an honest opinion from you bees about my own circumstances.
I have been with my boyfriend for 1/3 of my life, having dated since we were 14 up until now (we are both 22). We have lived together since we started university four years ago and are ready to graduate with our Bachelors degree in the spring. But we are both going to continue with school for another 3 years or so. I wanting to be an Art Therapist and him wanting to be a Social Worker.
Our parents are very supportive and I know his parents like me and my mom adores him.
Recently we have decided that maybe it’s time to get engaged, and it has been something I have been dreaming about for months now. We have both agreed on waiting until we are both finished school. Being together for 8 years I can wait another 3 and I know I will be busy in school anyhow. But I’m having second thoughts that maybe we won’t get a good reaction from other people outside the family.
So what do you think, it’s too early? Should we wait the other 3 years until we are both done school? Or do you think that now is just as fine a time considering we have been together 8 years?
I’d love to hear your opinions
Post # 3
@missteacup22: If you both feel like you’re ready than now is the time. If you’d like to finish school then put the wedding off until then. There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement.
Post # 4
It’s up to you! There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement but ultimately it’s whatever you feel the most comfortable with.
Post # 5
Agreed. A long engagement could be right for you two! If so, why not? 🙂
Post # 6
Its not too early if you are ready and know you want to spend the rest of your life together. Dont worry what others think.
However you are still at school and getting engaged usually leads to a wedding, this can be very expensive and very distracting. You need to decide if you can afford the time and the money to plan a wedding, or if you can bear a really long engagement before you decide to get engaged.
Post # 7
If you want a long engagement, I’d say go for it. 🙂 If your families are supporitve it’s even better. How exciting! 🙂
Post # 8
There is nothing worng with a long engagement, and it will give you time to plan and buget money.
Post # 9
I dont think its too early. I was engaged at 22 and married at 23. Do whatever feels right for your and your boyfriend!
Post # 10
I think that it is great if you guys want to get engaged. 8 years is a long time (especially in a world where it is not unheard of to meet, become engaged, and wed in a year). If you guys are ready to be engaged, go for it!
Post # 11
^^ What she said. Hit it right on the head.
By The Way, I’m 21 and my fiance is 22 (there are plenty of young bees here) and I don’t feel like we’re too young. We are, however, having a long engagement because there are things that we’d like to get done before we get married or are thrust into planning. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a long enagement.
Post # 12
There’s nothing wrong with getting engaged that young. And you can have a wedding in school, if you want, or wait 3 years. Do what you want and can afford. 🙂
Post # 13
I am 20 and my SO is 25. We’ve been together for two years and living together pretty much all of that time. We’ve been talking about getting married for about a year now. Our family is very supportive, but my friends kind of flipped their shit. I think you’re being very mature about you decision, you’ve thought it through and considered the options, and I think if you feel prepared you shouldn’t care what anyone else thinks.
Post # 14
We had a 3 year engagement, got engaged at 19/20 and married at 22/23. We waited to get married until after we finished college.
Post # 15
I think if you have the right person, and have responsible plans made for the future (housing, fianances, on the same page about children etc) there is absolutely nothing wrong about being engaged or married in my opinion!
Post # 16
My Fiance and I got engaged when we were 21. Now we’re both 23 and are looking at getting married in the next year after we finish up school and begin our adult jobs.