(Closed) Too Early to be Engaged?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@missteacup22: If you both feel like you’re ready than now is the time. If you’d like to finish school then put the wedding off until then. There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement.

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s up to you! There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement but ultimately it’s whatever you feel the most comfortable with. 

Post # 5
11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@mwitter80: Agreed. A long engagement could be right for you two! If so, why not? πŸ™‚

Post # 6
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Its not too early if you are ready and know you want to spend the rest of your life together. Dont worry what others think.

However you are still at school and getting engaged usually leads to a wedding, this can be very expensive and very distracting. You need to decide if you can afford the time and the money to plan a wedding, or if you can bear a really long engagement before you decide to get engaged.

Post # 7
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you want a long engagement, I’d say go for it. πŸ™‚ If your families are supporitve it’s even better. How exciting! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

There is nothing worng with a long engagement, and it will give you time to plan and buget money.

Post # 9
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I dont think its too early. I was engaged at 22 and married at 23. Do whatever feels right for your and your boyfriend!

Post # 10
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that it is great if you guys want to get engaged. 8 years is a long time (especially in a world where it is not unheard of to meet, become engaged, and wed in a year). If you guys are ready to be engaged, go for it!

Post # 11
2729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@mwitter80: ^^ What she said. Hit it right on the head.

By The Way, I’m 21 and my fiance is 22 (there are plenty of young bees here) and I don’t feel like we’re too young. We are, however, having a long engagement because there are things that we’d like to get done before we get married or are thrust into planning. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a long enagement.

Post # 12
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

There’s nothing wrong with getting engaged that young.  And you can have a wedding in school, if you want, or wait 3 years.  Do what you want and can afford.  πŸ™‚

Post # 13
2689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am 20 and my SO is 25. We’ve been together for two years and living together pretty much all of that time. We’ve been talking about getting married for about a year now. Our family is very supportive, but my friends kind of flipped their shit. I think you’re being very mature about you decision, you’ve thought it through and considered the options, and I think if you feel prepared you shouldn’t care what anyone else thinks.

Post # 14
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a 3 year engagement, got engaged at 19/20 and married at 22/23.  We waited to get married until after we finished college.

Post # 15
7288 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think if you have the right person, and have responsible plans made for the future (housing, fianances, on the same page about children etc) there is absolutely nothing wrong about being engaged or married in my opinion!


Post # 16
2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My Fiance and I got engaged when we were 21.  Now we’re both 23 and are looking at getting married in the next year after we finish up school and begin our adult jobs.

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