(Closed) too early to be this frustrated? (rant)

posted 5 years ago in May 2014
Post # 3
Member
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jigga143:  Firstly…breathe!

1) IMO, you should never ask people to be bridesmaids a year plus out. With that being said, what’s done is done. Don’t get caught up in the minutia of details for your bridesmaids.
2) Take her advice with a grain of salt. Who is paying for the wedding? At the end of the day, all that matters is that you and your Fiance will be husband and wife
3) I have a friend who planned her large (200+) wedding while we were in grad school. It can be done; keep yourself organized with a planner
4) Find a salon that has multiple sized samples. Call before you go to make sure they will have something in a reasonable size for you. I am a size 10/12 and I tried on samples that were my size (14 in bridal).
5) There is a light at the end of the tunnel
6) You can accessorize your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. What brands have you been looking into?

Honestly, I am not that stressed about things. It really is just one day and it’s silly to me to get all stressed out over things that you probably can’t control.  The only things that are weighing on me are finding a dress and paying for it all.

Post # 5
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hey girl, breath!  It’s too early to be stressed! 🙂  I was dealing with the same dress issue as well.  I’m a 12 or a 14 street size, and my first few dress appointments the salons had like, 4 and 6.  So I was feeling a little down on myself.  I was actually drawn to a lot of Alfred Angelo gowns, so I made an appointment at one of their flagship stores (about an hour away) and they had pretty much every dress I wanted to try on in my size or bigger.  I ended up not getting a dress from there, but it was refreshing to actually have to be clipped in the back & not just be told that I couldn’t try the dress on because it’s 3 sizes too small.. lol

Post # 6
Member
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i agree with your mother- you can’t have everything unless you’re extremely rich, and willing to trample on other peoples feelings in the process.

Post # 7
Member
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jigga143:  I am not having a bridal party. Just an Maid/Matron of Honor. As a result, one less thing to be stressed out about.

 

But I feel your pain about your mom. My parents are the same way. See what I posted here about 12 hours ago (top of May 2014). Maybe it will make you feel better about your situation! 

Post # 8
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jigga143:  Wow! You are defintely not alone! I’m on the same boat and my wedding date is same as yours! The future Mother-In-Law has been helping a lot and by helping a lot I mean sometimes that is overstepping and wanting to control everything. It’s a year away and while I have already planned a lot I feel I have lots of time to worry about the little things that she is stressing over. 

Also, I moved in with my mom to save money for the wedding and it has its ups and downs lately mostly ups. But defintely can be stressful in itself so I’m with you.

I have 6 bridesmaids and yes promises were made and drama ensued before the planning had even begun!  Sheesh girls! I have two MOHs because I couldn’t decide and I truly love them both and didnt want to step on anyone’s toes.

Things are coming along though…things are getting done slowly. My advice is try to look at the positives and stay focused on the goal which is marrying your best friend. Joke a lot about the stressful situations to laugh it off with your fiance. You have lots of time some people have short engagements and are able to pull everything off in four months time! The dress you fall in love with will come soon enough. *cross your finger*

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