Post # 1
When did you really start buying things and setting things in motion for your wedding.
We are 1 year 1 month 12 days ( I had to check a counter I am not that obessed ..YET) out from the wedding. I really want to start on somethings. But I feel like maybe it is too early.
I have my invitations designed. We know where and when we want to get married. So can I go ahead and start on them? The guest list is written but not 100% yet, you could say 90%.
I guess I am just scared to start setting things in stone and making things happen. Is this normal? I am going crazy aren’t I? :0)
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
We got engaged in November 2007, took December off to enjoy our new status (and the busy holiday season!) and jumped RIGHT in in January 2008 for our August 2009 wedding!
Sure, along the way, we met some snarky vendors — for example, a baker who wouldn’t talk to us during summer 2008 because he was only focusing on that summer’s brides at the time — but we also met a ton of people along the way that are VERY supportive of our advanced planning. We also were able to lock in cheaper rates for several of our contracts that we signed in 2008!
Good luck with your decision!
Post # 4
Do as bruschetta did and start booking any vendors that you can early! They’ll appreciate the advanced notice and you’ll be able to get some good rates. Not to mention this will leave you with A LOT less stress when crunch time rolls around. As for purchasing or making things for your wedding, as long as you are set with the design of things and know you won’t want to change your mind, then there is definitely no problem with getting started on those early. Are you making your invitations? Because if you are, the more time you have to make them, the better! I had a 3 month engagement so I pretty much had to get EVERYTHING done right off the bat. So be glad you have the extra time! Enjoy it!
Post # 5
It is not too early! I loved the fact that I’m super relaxed now because of all my early planning and booking. I would recommend you save the little details for last so you have fun stuff to do but also, in case you change your mind. We were engaged in October 2007 and are getting married in May 2009. 🙂
Post # 6
We started looking for reception venues in August and put down a deposit in September when we found one… that was 1yr 1mo. before our date. We had most of the big stuff booked by November. I think its good to get all the big stuff out of the way in the beginning so that you can 1) have a good variety to chose from and 2) not have to worry about that stressful stuff as your day gets closer.
Post # 7
I would hold off on commiting to the guest list until everything gets a bit closer. I was super-excited to begin planning and we sent out our save the dates about 9 months early. I rationalized that because we are having a semi-destination wedding on a holiday weekend that people needed to know ahead of time. Now I wish I had waited because some people we sent save the dates to are not really our friends anymore. We have (to my initial horror) cut about two or three guests who we originally sent Save-The-Date Cards to because we haven’t spoken to them since we’ve been engaged.
Post # 8
I would get started if you have things you want to do now!!! We have been engaged 10 1/2 months and the wedding is 9 days away and I am completely relaxed. Everything is DONE. There are a couple of things I wish I could change, like we did DIY centerpieces and I wish we had budgeted for flowers… but for the most part it was just a little bit at a time and it all got done early! As far as the guest list, I would suggest not solidifying anything or even telling people "can’t wait until you’re at my wedding!" If I could rewind, I would have cut about 20 people off our 100 person list to get things just a bit more intimate but between my fiance and I, we had already practically promised invites to them. I wish we had used a bit more discression, but we’ll have fun with a bigger group too!!! Good Luck!
Post # 9
We have had a long (20 months) engagement … it really has turned out to be the best. We booked our bigger vendors about two months after we were engaged (18 months to the date) and we actually sent our save the dates out so that they could read "one year from now …" all the guests loved it (especially since our wedding is a New Years wedding and the working of the save the date played off that). Here I am just a little over 9 months out and I am not stressed at all! I would say that if your guest list is 90% certain … make sure you have that 90%s addresses all ready to go. If you want to get started on things, do it. Be prepared. You have the time, utitlize it.
So that’s my opinion — go for it! There will always be something that will come up at the end no matter how prepared you are, so why not get started.
Post # 10
I would hold off on some things others have mentioned, such as the guest list (get a good head count) but don’t send save the dates or anything, because things change. And ultimately you may wish you hadn’t invited some people. Also, some of the details I ended up changing my mind a hundred times so I wouldn’t set anything in stone till it’s a little closer. But def. look for ideas, write them down, and do some of the big stuff (like book vendors). You’ll gradually get things done, so it’ll be less stressful then doing it all at once. Time will fly by though!
Post # 11
It’s never too early! I’m getting married this June. We booked our venue and photographer last April, our DJ last May, had our invitations printed and I scheduled appointments with a dressmaker by last August (we just guestimated and made sure to order more than we thought we needed; hell, our guest list is STILL a work in progress), had the invites addressed in January…
If you’re fairly settled on what you want, and have a good idea of how that fits with your overall budget, then there’s not a whole lot of reason to wait. As others mentioned a few of the people I talked to were a bit rude (but I just knew not to hire them), and most of the vendors told me it was great that I was booking them early. It was also great to be able to pick and choose because no vendors were booked for our date when we talked to them. It’s great to have options when you don’t have an unlimited budget.
And now that there’s less than three months to go (omg omg omg), I’m glad to have everything taken care of, so I can focus on the fun little details, and on the whole getting married thing!
Post # 12
We had a 15 month engagement and everyone said we were starting too early. Wow?! You already booked your venue?
Well, it really worked in our favor and we got some fabulous discounts… I feel fairly relaxed (with a few occasional moments of panic :D) now because of our proactive approach to planning. Remember that everything takes longer than you think it will, so it’s good to get going on it!
Post # 13
We’re getting married in May 2010 too. So far we booked our venue, hired a photographer, and made our save the dates (haven’t addressed them since we’re not 100% done with our guest list, but we had a rough idea on how many people total we’re going to invite, also we figured that we don’t have to send everyone a save the date if they’re local. We’re now researching and planning on meeting with an officiant.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s ever too early too plan!
Post # 15
Sounds like you are doing great! I booked our wedding venue before he even proposed (I knew he had the ring), so I think you are doing just fine.
Post # 16
If I told you it was too early for you, I would be in big trouble… we’re about a year and 7 months out. BUT we are waiting mainly so that we can save long enough to afford what we want. We just booked our venue last weekend. I’m doing the flowers and all the other "decorative" stuff, so I’d like to have time to change things I don’t end up liking or whatever.
Go on with the planning – it gives you more time to find what you want – and you can wait for sales, do your research, etc. I know lots of brides that thought they’d be good with 6 months to plan and were rethinking it later… You’re not crazy – Just prepared!