(Closed) Too early to start doing things with the wedding?

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Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m planning for a sept. wedding in 2011! i’m starting all my research with vendors, reception sites, and DIY projects. i’ve given myself a timeline so i don’t feel overwhelmed and just relax and enjoy the process.

the only thing i’m worried about is that i can be very fickle and change my mind about the little stuff (program design, shoes, hair up or down)..but i know i still have tons-o-time on those issues. ur not crazy, you are a prepared bride ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Start early, just don’t be surprised when you get some weird looks from people.

WE are having a relatively short engagement (10 months) but have always known where and when we wanted to have it. It’s the details that are bogging us down. 

We are getting married outside of a very small town, so when I requested appointments with florists, bakers, and hair people 8 months out, they kept saying "my you are doing this early!" which I didn’t feel was the case at all. (This from the same people that were surprised that I would want to do a tasting to see if my cake was poison or not…) 

One of my bridesmaids is shocked at how "early" I have done some stuff as well (dress at 8 months out, register at 6 months). She keeps saying that I have plenty of time and should just wait. When normal people have two planning periods (at beginning and towards end for details) mine has never stopped because no one is easy to work with in a small area and tends not to be that explicit in details or communication… 

So start as early as possible ! Just ignore the snide comments… they have no idea… 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It is NEVER too early to start planning and purchasing stuff. I have been engaged since Oct 07 and we won’t be married until Oct 09. The best part is, I have nearly the WHOLE wedding planned! Favors, centerpieces, flowers, invites, etc. DONE! It will relieve SO much stress if you plan ASAP. Plus, it give you the best choice for vendors since you are doing it all early! ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck, and happy planning!

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No way is it too early! I was planning my wedding six months before my man even proposed and right now we are still a year out and getting things done.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Do everything you can now!  It will give you more time to enjoy things.  We are getting married 10 months after getting engaged and I feel like I haven’t gotten a chance to really enjoy the engagement as I have had to plan, plan, plan.  Do what you can now and spread things out to make them easier on yourself.  Also this would be a great oppurtunity to try out some DIY projects you are thinking about to make sure they work.  Good Luck!

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

I think it’s great to start early. But i’m biased. We are having a 21 month engagement. It also depends on what’s going on in your life and where your wedding will be. We’re having a semi-destination wedding in my hometown of San Diego, CA. Everything books up early in San Diego and we live in Chicago. So we’ll need plenty of time to head back and forth. We’re both also in grad school and will need to complete a dissertation before getting married. So it really depends, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to start early. If anything, you have time to do more research, find ideas, and DIY. Good luck!

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We got engaged late August 08 and we booked our venue the day after….good thing we did because there was only 1 Saturday for summer 2009 left!!!! And we took it!!  I then booked the big things in the next 2 month..photographer…decorations….florist.  Then I started looking at invitations and stationaries.  It’s 3.5 months until the wedding and all I have left to do is the last minute things like printing the programs (they’re all ready…I just have to print it)….menus….name tags for seating….seating chart. We are going to hand out our invitations as soon as we hit April! 

I really do NOT recomment you doing anything invitation/guest-list related until it’s like 6 months before the wedding date.  You really only need about 3 months to deal with all of that.  There are a lot of other little details that you need to start thinking about and make sure you book all the big stuff asap because  decorators, photographers, florists and venues only have so many dates open.  Once you have those things done you can start to focus on the details…you can’t start planning the details unless you know your big stuff anyways.  The little details tend to revolve around the bigger things.

HAPPY PLANNING!!!!!  IT’S FUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ohhh one more thing………….GET YOUR DRESS ORDERED!!!!!!  And dresses for bridal parties….most places take up to 6 months to get it in…and then you still have to get it altered and have time to buy all your accessories and go for hair/makeup trials =)

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2009

It’s is never to early to start planning the biggest day of your life. Just remember to keep receipts of anything that you buy. I changed my mind for the colors of our wedding so many times and had to return everything I bought ๐Ÿ™‚ If you have craigslist in your area look for brides that are selling magazines or just buy them and start clipping out all the ideas you like. That is the best part. Enjoy!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington

We are a year and a half out from our wedding and have already jumped into the planning.  We have our venues and I will be starting dress shopping this weekend.  I have already designed my invitations and have begun to meet with vendors to compare ideas and pricing.

I never think it is too early.  The more you get done now, the less you have to worry about later.  However, the only downside is if you change your mind half-way through the planning.  I don’t foresee that being an issue with me though!

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel

I also had a very long engagement, and am still just under 8 months out! I would say get started what you can now! I feel like I am really lucky to have been able to have the time for all my DIY stuff.

Just be careful about your guest list so early! We made the mistake of trying to get it together way too early, talking to too many people about it, and months later when getting invitations together we realized some people we didn’t even talk to anymore and there were new people we wanted to invite as well.

Good luck though, and don’t forget to enjoy it!

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wedding date June 12th 2010 – Just started researching different venues this past weekend…3 out of 4 require a contract if booking this far out, but added it’s best to book the church and reception location a year in advance – depends on popularity. We’re even considering a beach ceremony with the reception at a nearby hotel…decisions, decisions…

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well, our engagement will only be 11 months long, total, and in reality, we didn’t start planning until about 10 months out (now at 7 months out!). But I do recall feeling pretty antsy until we had the venues booked and the date set. After that I relaxed. A little. ๐Ÿ™‚ You say that you know where you want to have it, but have you actually booked the places yet? If not, I say go ahead and do that, it’s really the first big thing. Keep working on the guest list too, it takes longer than you think. After you have the venue and the date set, the rest kind of falls into place. Book the other big vendors next, (caterer, photographer, dj) and then you’ll have plenty of time to think about the details!

Post # 46
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

While it’s never too early to start researching, I’d hold off on making any big purchases or decisions for a few more months.  I have changed my mind so many times in what will be my 21 month engagement.  I don’t think there is necessarily a strict time frame you should follow as to when to start making the big decisions, but I think the most important thing is to wait until you have a vision for the entire wedding, that way every decision you make will be reflective of that.  Otherwise you might find yourself having to return things or lose deposits on things that don’t end up fitting in with your wedding as a whole.

At this point, I’d say relax and enjoy your engagement.  And do tons of research and save photos/blog posts/ideas on your computer to look through and make decisions on later!

Congrats on your engagement and good luck!

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