Post # 1
I just joined Weddingbee because I saw how incredibly supportive and helpful everyone was. I’m really looking forward to sharing even more with ya’ll this next year! But that leads me to the reason for this post: I think I’ve become slightly addicted to planning my wedding. It’s not that I’m bridezilla (quite the opposite, actually, I’m really laid back), it’s just that I’m so excited to spend the rest of my life with my soon-to-be finance that I just can’t contain it!
But it’s too early! My boyfriend and I just found my engagement ring and he’s already informally proposed, but he is waiting to formally propose until this summer when we’ve been dating a year (we’ve only been dating 10 months and he’s only a sophomore in college and I’m a junior!) But it’s all just too exciting for us. The wedding’s more than a year away but we’ve already found our honeymoon location, the wedding bands, the venue, and maybe even a wedding dress. We are just so excited that every chance we get, we get on our computers and search something wedding related and it almost always brings us to tears. Is this healthy? Am I going crazy or something?
Post # 3
@soexcitedtobegettingmarried: I would say at your stage of life it’s not exactly healthy.
It’s awesome that you are both on the same wavelength, but you’re both very young and haven’t been together very long, so it all seems a bit premature. Take some deep breaths and take your time. Don’t let the event of the wedding overshadow the needs of your relationship.
And welcome to bee!
Post # 4
@soexcitedtobegettingmarried: I don’t know you personally at all but I found that sometimes people tend to get excited over the wedding, not really the marriage. But you also said you were super excited to spend the rest of your life with your SO so that’s just a general statement, not directed towards you.
But it definetely is something to keep an eye on… Don’t want the wedding more than you want the marriage because let me tell you, when the dust settles and the wedding is over and you’re thrust into marriage and nothing is pretty or planned out or ogled over, it’s hard. REALLY hard. They’re not kidding about the first year being the hardest…and I’m only 4 months into it. I just don’t want the dust to settle and you not to expect or be ready for what comes after 🙂
But welcome! The women on here are fantastic!
Post # 5
I don’t think you’re too young! Maybe you’ve only been together for a short time, but sometimes when you know, you know! At least that’s what I’ve heard. It’s normal to be super excited, but I’m with the PP. Don’t get so excited about the wedding that you’re ignoring the marriage aspect. We all get that way sometimes, so it’s good to be reminded to keep our feet on the ground! Welcome and good luck!
Post # 6
Welcome and congrats on your engagement! Like the others said, try to stay focused on your marriage rather than the wedding itself, you guys have a long road ahead of you! It sounds like you’re really happy in love though and it’s sweet that you’re both so excited for your future together! Take things one step at a time is all!
If you don’t mind my asking, are your families involved in the planning at all? I imagine they’re pretty excited for you too!
Post # 7
I agree with the other ladies. Don’t get so excited about the wedding that you forget the marriage! Since you’ve been together for a relatively short amount of time, you just want to make sure you’re maintaining that relationship and keeping each other happy.
That being said, your wedding is in about a year, and depending on where you live and your finances, planning ahead could be extremely important. Having an idea about which vendors to use is a good idea, but remember that nothing has to be set in stone just yet!
Also, when exactly did you get engaged? If it’s extremely recent, I think a certain amount of ovewhelming excitement is expected and normal. Just don’t let it consume your life and you’ll be fine.
Welcome to the Hive!
Post # 8
Honestly? Kinda. It’s great to be excited, but marriage goes well beyond a wedding. It’s a serious, lifelong commitment. At this stage in your life, maybe it’s best to focus on graduating and enjoying dating each other rather than crying over how awesome the honeymoon and dress is going to be? It’s been 10 months. Don’t make the focus of your relationship “The Relationship”.
Post # 9
@Miss Fish: They aren’t engaged yet. An “informal proposal” has happened, and a ring has been picked out.
Post # 10
In all fairness, she did not ask if we think she is too young.
I think it is perfectly fine to be this excited about your wedding and spending the rest of your life with your (informal)FI. Weddings are exciting! Enjoy it. It goes by fast. Our engagement is a year and a half and I have been excited like that the whole time. We are having so much fun together planning and talking about such a special day for both of us.
Post # 11
Oh, I totally agree that the marraige should be in top priority and, as a harpist who has seen hundreds of weddings, I actually have never been one to get very giddy about my own so this really surprised me. But I’ve since chilled out. This post was the result of the post-engagement giddyness that Miss Fish was saying is to be expected. But I started thinking about all trhe logistics and finances and the fact that…get this: if we were to get married when we were planning, my finance wouldn’t even be able to legally drink champagne at our wedding! Ok, that was a (forgive the pun) sobering fact. We’ve since moved the date to two years away and I’m much calmer. But thanks for all of your advice!
Post # 12
nope, you’re just being a woman:)
congrats on your informal engagement. i will say though, if you get too wrapped up in the wedding, you may suffer from post-wedding blues… just keep that in mind. happy planning!