(Closed) Too Excited?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

@soexcitedtobegettingmarried: I would say at your stage of life it’s not exactly healthy.

It’s awesome that you are both on the same wavelength, but you’re both very young and haven’t been together very long, so it all seems a bit premature. Take some deep breaths and take your time. Don’t let the event of the wedding overshadow the needs of your relationship. 

And welcome to bee!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@soexcitedtobegettingmarried: I don’t know you personally at all but I found that sometimes people tend to get excited over the wedding, not really the marriage. But you also said you were super excited to spend the rest of your life with your SO so that’s just a general statement, not directed towards you.

But it definetely is something to keep an eye on… Don’t want the wedding more than you want the marriage because let me tell you, when the dust settles and the wedding is over and you’re thrust into marriage and nothing is pretty or planned out or ogled over, it’s hard. REALLY hard. They’re not kidding about the first year being the hardest…and I’m only 4 months into it. I just don’t want the dust to settle and you not to expect or be ready for what comes after 🙂

But welcome! The women on here are fantastic!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you’re too young! Maybe you’ve only been together for a short time, but sometimes when you know, you know! At least that’s what I’ve heard. It’s normal to be super excited, but I’m with the PP. Don’t get so excited about the wedding that you’re ignoring the marriage aspect. We all get that way sometimes, so it’s good to be reminded to keep our feet on the ground! Welcome and good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Welcome and congrats on your engagement! Like the others said, try to stay focused on your marriage rather than the wedding itself, you guys have a long road ahead of you! It sounds like you’re really happy in love though and it’s sweet that you’re both so excited for your future together! Take things one step at a time is all!

If you don’t mind my asking, are your families involved in the planning at all? I imagine they’re pretty excited for you too!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I agree with the other ladies. Don’t get so excited about the wedding that you forget the marriage! Since you’ve been together for a relatively short amount of time, you just want to make sure you’re maintaining that relationship and keeping each other happy.

That being said, your wedding is in about a year, and depending on where you live and your finances, planning ahead could be extremely important. Having an idea about which vendors to use is a good idea, but remember that nothing has to be set in stone just yet!

Also, when  exactly did you get engaged? If it’s extremely recent, I think a certain amount of ovewhelming excitement is expected and normal. Just don’t let it consume your life and you’ll be fine.

Welcome to the Hive!

Post # 8
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Honestly? Kinda. It’s great to be excited, but marriage goes well beyond a wedding. It’s a serious, lifelong commitment. At this stage in your life, maybe it’s best to focus on graduating and enjoying dating each other rather than crying over how awesome the honeymoon and dress is going to be? It’s been 10 months. Don’t make the focus of your relationship “The Relationship”.

Post # 9
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

@Miss Fish: They aren’t engaged yet. An “informal proposal” has happened, and a ring has been picked out. 

Post # 10
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

In all fairness, she did not ask if we think she is too young.

I think it is perfectly fine to be this excited about your wedding and spending the rest of your life with your (informal)FI. Weddings are exciting! Enjoy it. It goes by fast. Our engagement is a year and a half and I have been excited like that the whole time. We are having so much fun together planning and talking about such a special day for both of us. 

Post # 12
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

nope, you’re just being a woman:)

congrats on your informal engagement.  i will say though, if you get too wrapped up in the wedding, you may suffer from post-wedding blues… just keep that in mind.  happy planning!

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