Post # 1
New to the boards but not to wedding bee, I love it here!
Anyways, I went dress shopping and ended up trying on a dress that took my breath away when I saw it on the mannequin a while back.
The dress is absolutely stunning and nothing that I had even looked at before- doesn’t that always happen?? haha. Its about 6K, and my budget was 2-3. I know that I can make it work if I wanted to purchase it but I’m having trouble justifying spending such a huge chunk of money!
Up until this point of planning I was very level-headed and frugal, now I’ve found everything that I was looking for in one amazing dress. Anyone in the same situation? Or anyone throw caution to the wind and are glad they did?
FYI- this dress cannot be replicated, very detailed and intricate beading- and it’s brand new so I won’t be able to buy it used online. Please help- should I or shouldn’t I??
Post # 3
What dress is it? Post a picture here and maybe we can suggest something similar in your price range.
I try not to judge anyone for how much they spend on their dresses, but honestly I don’t think there’s just one perfect dress out there. I say don’t buy it. There are tons of beautiful dresses which are in your budget, you don’t need to double it to find something that will make you look and feel amazing.
Post # 4
Can you post a pic? You’d be amazed by what some of the bees are capable of. Perhaps there is something very very similar in a less expensive designer?
Personally I think the budget is important. You should definitely keep looking and see if you can find something in your price range. There are so many lovely dresses out there!
Post # 5
Sit on it–do some looking and see what you can find for less. Now that the wedding is over, I am really glad to say I DIDN’T spend a ton of money on my dress. That money has come in handy and it’s nice to have. I’d much rather have a second vacation 8 months after the wedding. BUt if you can’t find anything you like just as much, THEN think about “the” dress months down the road. But, I don’t think I could spend that kind of money on a dress, either, and if you have trouble justifying that purchase, you may regret it. That’s like, half a year’s mortgage =]
Post # 6
I’m with GreenLeaf on this one – if you let us know what dress it is, we can probably help you find something similar within your budget. The hive is really good at challenges like that 😉
Welcome to posting! I hope you’ll delurk more often and share your inspiration and planning with us. 🙂
Post # 7
I would keep looking. Do you have any consignment shops you can look through in your area? I went to two different bridal consignment shops where there were tons of dresses to look through. You never know if you might find something (or even your actual dress) that you really love in one of these. Best part is you can get them for really good deals. I bought a 1500 Maggie Sotterro for 500 at one in my area.
Post # 8
It depends on your values. You have to put your money where your values are. Personally, I valued having a good deal on my dress, so I limited myself to sample sales and found a dress that I LOVE for $300. I would have some bad feelings about a dreamy-looking dress that was expensive.
Post # 9
Yay! I’m so excited I got some feedback so quickly!
Ok, so its an amalia carrera dress, I’ll try and find a picture online to add. The details on this dress are what make it unbelievable and I don’t think that is something that I am willing to sacrifice =/
Also, I can afford to buy this dress so it’s not necessarily a budget issue. I just assumed I would be someone who wouldn’t spend over 5K for a dress. After seeing your suggestions not to buy it I immediately was bummed! No offense, I did ask for advice- I think my heart was looking for somone to tell me that it was a justified purchase (sorry!). How do you justify spending a lot of money on something you only wear for one day? I could probably get the dress for 5K with some pleading, it’s still a lot of money.
Also, I’ve tried on what I originally thought was going to be my dress and the amalia completely blew that dress away. For the first time,I felt like a bride in this dress and even cried.
Post # 10
I would look for similar alternatives, however, if you still want that one… and it can work now… there are things you can do.
Check the classifieds here or any of the pre-owned dress sites to see if it pops up, used. You can also sell it yourself after but be aware you’ll probably only recoup 50% or less, and of course there’s always a risk that you won’t get everything for it you want….
Let us know what your “real” budget is and post a picture of the dream dress if you want… the power of the hive is amazing and I’m sure we can find a cheaper version 🙂
ETA: I got that you were looking for validation, which is why I tossed you the selling and pre-owned ideas… I’m kinda amazed no one had said them yet… you can usually find dresses cheaper and usually the hive is quick to rec. pre-owned…. I felt kinda bad for you that everyone was just saying NO 🙂 If it’s way out of your range, I would still look for alternatives… but in the end, the right one is the right one 🙂
Post # 11
What I would have to say would mirror the other girls. But honestly, it sounds like you have already made your decision!
So congrats on finding your dress! 🙂
Post # 12
I would be willing to spend 4K and know that I got what I truly wanted. I do feel like this dress is one of a kind. I doubt I will be able to buy it used since its a Spring 2010.
Post # 13
I’m honestly really surprised no one is saying to look for it pre-owned… or talk about how to recoup some of the money by selling it…
Post # 14
Wow! That is a really pretty dress!
Post # 15
@Ottawa Haha, it looked even better on!
I will tell you bees that I am going to go dress shopping one more time and really try and find a beautiful dress at a lower cost. If I can’t find anything that compares with this then I’ll know I tried!
Post # 16
You might be able to find it pre-owned. I know that most lines have their Fall 2010 lines out already, so someone might have worn it and be willing to sell it.
Other than that, I agree with KLP2010, and you should consider selling it after you wear it to get your money back.