Post # 1
I’ve been reading a lot of posts here, and it’s got me really worried.
Long story short: My fiance and I got engaged in December. We work at the same place and they do not allow spouses to work in the same department. In a domino effect, we are going to have to change jobs and in case one of us doesn’t find a job, we need to be married to be on each other’s insurance. Therefore, we are having a semi-destination wedding on May 27 outside of Pigeon Forge, TN.
Because of all of this, I need to find a dress, but I can’t take vacation days so that I can have that extra pay just in case I don’t get a job later. So, finding the time to go to a bridal store is pretty unlikely. On top of that, my bridesmaids are in Indiana and Arkansas and I live in Kentucky.
So, where this all leaves me is that I have a budget of $500 to find a dress to fit me (I’m 5’11” and according to sizing websites, I should be wearing an 18.)
I’m beginning to doubt that I’ll be able to find anything to make me look beautiful to the point where I’m really really close to calling the whole thing off. I’ve always wanted to look beautiful for my wedding and I just don’t think I’ll be able to.
Is there any hope or should I just give up?
Post # 3
Of course you can look beautiful. Post pics of yourself and we will try and help you find something. How do you feel about preowned?
Post # 4
DB has lots of dresses around that size and budget. They are open late and on weekends. You can also call around to bridal stores and see what they have in your size and budget, if they have something you are interested in see if they would be willing to stay open so you can make it there in your free time.
Of course you will find something beautiful!
Post # 5
Just so you’re informed wedding dresses run smaller. I am currently in an 18 but only fit into a 20 wedding dress. I recently had the opportunity to go shopping for a dress and found this out. So if you’re an actual 18 regular, then you’ll probably fit into a 20? Just thought you should know this in case you decide to buy online. I too am on a budget. I was able to find MY DREAM DRESS on preownedweddingdress.com. The site is a godsend! Take your measurements and compare them to the sizing on this site, they are all listed for each dress, well most of them anyway! I was able to purchase a Maggie Sottero at 50% of the regular price. Only $600 and this was a plus sized dress! I couldn’t believe it! I know it’s going to be hard to pick out a dress without trying it on. I had some doubts at first, but the love that I have for this dress is so huge that I know it will look fabulous on me. Also, I was able to take one day and go to a shop to try on different styles. This will help you immensely if you can at least do this. Best of luck with your dress shopping, I know you’ll be able to find something for that price.
Post # 6
There are other sites where you can buy a previously loved wedding dress.
craigslist- you can check all sites at the same time by going to http://www.google.com
then enter site:craigslist.org size 20 wedding dress
Davids Bridal has sales where they sell dresses for $99. This one is only $119
Go to some local stores to see what style of dress you like best, then look around for something less expensive.
Post # 7
Depending on what you’re looking for, DB actually has some pretty good stuff. You have to be very specific about what you want. Being tall shouldn’t hinder that (I am 5’10!) and being plus-sized shouldn’t hinder that (being plus-sized myself). You CAN find that. My dress was slightly over your $500 budget (it was $749) but I found it at DB. I LOVE it. I was just very open-minded about what I would like, but I was also very specific about what I don’t like (straps, mermaids). They have pretty reasonable hours and I’m pretty sure are open all weekend too. PM me if you want more info! And you CAN find one!
Btw, May of 2012 or 2013?
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
You should definetley look at David’s bridal and the online pre-owned sites. You also could have a replica made, through a reputable replica company like Jasmine’s Bridal Shop or Dressilyme (cheaper).
Don’t be discouraged. I’m about the same size as you and am having a shit time finding a dress, too. I literally want to rip out my hair over it. I think in the end, I’m going to have to order a replica gown.
Post # 9
There are wedding dresses for all budgets to fit all sizes, I’m sure you can find one. As for your job, if you know you are getting married and need a new job, I would start looking immediately to make sure there’s no employment gap if you are forced to leave your position before you can find a new job. Will your company find another department to place you in so that you are not in the same group? Seems silly to lose a good employee just b/c they happen to marry someone in the same group.
Post # 10
Don’t be so down on yourself! Of course you can find a beautiful flattering dress! You can dress shop around your work schedule. You may have to go one place one day and anothe place another day. Be deliberate when selecting dresses. Browse online and ask for specific styles when you get to your appointments. By the way, make appointments so that you don’t waste time waiting.
Post # 11
1) I have never seen an ugly bride. Their glowing smile is enough to light a room
2) There is no need to take time off. Every bridal shop I have encountered is open weekends and weekdays.
3) If you find one you like, as other suggested, you can look for one online such as a replica or a used one.
4) Davids bridal has great sales and you can buy off the rack
5) you can do it!
Post # 12
You can go to a bridal store locally and just take the dress with you later- you don’t need to buy where you’re getting married. I’ve never seen a bridal salon that wasn’t open on Saturdays, and many are open Sundays or late at night as well. Even if you can’t take your BMs, can you take your mom? A close relative? Or go by yourself- I did that a couple times and it was sort of nice to not have anyone giving their opinion for a while 🙂 Most shops have a clearance section with lots of dresses under $500. You could also try going to consignment shops.
Also, when I started dress shopping I was a size 16- you can definitely find a beautiful dress that you look and feel great in, in your size. Check the full-figured boards here- lots of plus size brides have posted pictures in their dresses and they’re all stunning!
Post # 13
I’m so sorry you’re feeling frustrated, but I have to agree, that plenty of dress stores are open weekends or evenings. Just call around and I’m sure you’ll find one that is, and I saw plenty of dresses in larger sizes. I’m a bridal size 14-16, and didn’t have too much trouble finding stuff to try on! I think you’re lucky you’re tall, because you’ll save on alterations!
Post # 14
Oh, and one other piece of advice: Don’t shop outside of your budget if you don’t think you can afford it. Don’t try on $1,000 dresses if your budget is $500. Just don’t. I’ve seen lots of “horror stories” about that, that laters leads to dress regret, yada yada.
Post # 15
Pre- owned wedding dresses is the way to go. You can even look for consignment bridal shops. I found a bridal shop that sold dresses that were only used for photo shoots. They sold the dresses for 50 to 70% off! I saved $1,200 on my dress and it’s in excellent condition. Good luck!
Post # 16
It’s May 2012. Good catch.
I think this is about the best picture that I have that kind shows what I’m working with bodywise:
I looked through some of the websites you all posted (and thank you all so much for that) and found a few dresses that I thought looked nice, but I saw this one and kind of fell in love: http://www.recycledbride.com/listing/9310/alfred-angelo-2015
Pretty much the only thing I know for certain that I want from the dress is A-line with a splash of color, preferably teal. I lost my mom to cervical cancer 2.5 years ago and I feel that having my wedding colors teal and white for awareness is a good way to honor her on a day that she should have been there. Will that look good on me and how can I find a similar dress to try on before I even think about committing?