(Closed) Too fat for the dress of my dreams :( should I buy it anyway?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

I say go for it! I did the same thing and now my dress is a bit too big actually! Wedding is in July and I ordered the dress in August. I tried it on in January.

Post # 18
515 posts
Busy bee

i bought a runway sample (unworn) Ines di Santo in a size 10 bridal when i was a size 10 street… her bridal ten in this design is like a size 6 street.

WOULD NOT ZIP AT ALL. Lost ten lbs, plus industrial strength shapewear (took two inches off my butt), and got it to zip to the waist. Still need 1k in alterations LOL! but for me it was worth it with the thousands i saved on the dress and it being impossible to find (two seasons old).

for $400, i’d just buy new 😉

Post # 19
1506 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve heard nightmare stories from jjshouse. 


Post # 20
5058 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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greywacke :  its a lovely dress and you have a lovely figure but I honestly don’t see where on your body you will be able to loose 10 pounds from? You are already slim with great curves. 

I think you should either keep looking or order the dress in your correct size. If you don’t meet your goal you will spend more than $400 on alterations or a new dress. Is the stress of weight loss leading up to your wedding worth the $400 savings? Y

Post # 21
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would call alteration experts, show them pictures, get an estimate and see what it’s possible to do to fit in it if you don’t lose weight. I’ve been getting alteration quotes and they are huge (ie might be more than duties/shipping fees).

Post # 22
1789 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Buy your dress in the correct size. There is no guarantee that this dress will fit if you lose 10 lbs. And what if you don’t or something happens and you’re unable to workout? You want the lead up to your wedding to be as stress-free as possible and enjoyable. I don’t think you need to lose any weight personally. No one except you will care if you have a flat stomach on your honeymoon. I think you already look great anyways and don’t see how your stomach would look noticeably better if you lost 10 lbs. There are tons of gorgeous dresses out there. Buy the right size or keep looking IMO.

Post # 23
765 posts
Busy bee

I saw many dresses in US on stillwhite. I’m reluctant to support you in buying something which didn’t fit well from the start… Xx

Post # 24
136 posts
Blushing bee

I just wanted to be a voice of support here: I am 5″3′ and started at 130lbs with a BMI smack bang in the middle of healthy at 22 – nothing “obvious” to shed but I wanted to be my best self for my wedding day. By  making some changes to my diet like cutting ice cream and alcohol plus switching to water, I’ve lost 5lbs and 3cm off Waist/Hips/Thighs: BMI now 21.5. Unless you have a track record of seriously struggling to drop weight, I think you can definitely do it. 10lbs is definitely doable if you’re really committed. 

If you think you’re not the kind of person who sticks to stuff like that longer term, buy a dress that fits. You’re not overweight at all, and other dresses will look amazing too.

Post # 29
3085 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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greywacke :  I would do it as long as you can be commuted and dedicated to losing the weight. I purchased my size 4p dress when I was a size 12. And I got down to size by my wedding day. It was great motivation too!!

Post # 30
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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greywacke :  Wtoo – Elise was my gown. My top was 0 but bottom was between 0 and 2. I purchased it through BHLDN so the shipping was only $15.

First I ordered 0. When this dress is tight on your hips it is not comfortable at all. It is very hard to walk because it gets really tight around your legs. So I decided to get 2. 

They say lace dresses loosens as you wear. That is correct. But it won’t happen until the end of your wedding. The lace of Elise is very delicate and it has so many holes. Seamstresses won’t be able to do a lot of alterations on it. I didn’t event get this gown bustled to not to damage the lace. 

One of the bees send you a link for a size 10. I highly recommend you to buy your size for this gown. Do not rely on alterations. There is not enough material inside the zipper. Even it has it is very hard to play with it. The alterations will cost you more than $400 because of the delicate lace. 

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