Too fat for the dress of my dreams :( should I buy it anyway?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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1318 posts
Bumble bee

IMO peace of mind that you are going to fit into your wedding dress is worth $400. i’d order it in your current size.

Post # 33
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’d wait to lose the weight and if/when you do see if that one is still there. There’s a good chance it will be and they may even lower it more if it seems like you might be going g in another direction. Without the pushup and with a little shapeware I think it would fit you now. Maybe you should go back and try it with different undergarments. You’re really close to fitting

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

You are not too fat. The dress is the wrong size. I recognize this might seem like quibbling over language to some, but I don’t believe it is. 

Post # 37
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Worker bee

It is a beautiful dress but I think you should keep looking .

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

greywacke :  1- you are not fat. 

2- With some dresses, it isn’t your body fat that requires you to be a bigger size, it is the size of your frame ( like your ribcage). I am a bridal size ten- I have a wider torso and losing 10-15 pounds wouldn;t have necessarily made a size 8 dress fit correctly- 

Looking at that dress it may be the same for you. You might lose 10 lbs of weight from your arms and butt but it still might not help close the dress .

I would 100% order it in the correct size. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

greywacke :  Also don’t let the salons pressure you into making a decision. Try to relax and enjoy shopping! They do say some designers can take 6-8 months to ship, but I am sure if you say ” i need this dress in 5 months” they could make it happen. When is your wedding?

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So I know everyone says to order for your size. The dress shop I ordered from actually sized down (didn’t realize at the time) and when I got my dress it was too tight and looked horrible. I actually cried when I got it because it was so unflattering. I just knew I had to lose the weight and I went on a very restrictive diet, worked out, and lost the weight. My dress fit perfectly. You can do it too. I actually would say go for it unless losing weight is hard for you to do.

Post # 41
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Busy bee

It’s easy to drop 10 lbs, especially if you have more than a couple months until the big day. I say get the dress and get yourself into shape. 

Post # 42
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Worker bee

Have you been able to successfully lose weight in the  past? Do you exercise consistently?  If you do, and have a handle on eating healthy to lose weight, then yes, I would buy the dress.

 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would get it. But this is coming from someone who bought their dress down a size purposely to give myself a kick in the ass to lose a bit of weight. It fits now, i’ve lost about 11 pounds and am continuing to lose. 

On a side note, you’re not fat. 🙂 XO

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

Is this dress available for custom order?  If so I would definitely go that route.  For me it personally would not be worth saving $400 to get a dress that may not fit on my wedding day.  Is 10 pounds a reasonable amount to lose in the time frame you’re mentioning, yes.  But there isn’t an exact correlation between pounds lost and sizes or inches.  You can’t control where you lose the weight so you could very well lose the weight and have it come off in a place where it won’t affect how the dress fits.  Especially if you’re more well endowed.  I think basing the size off those measurements would give you better coverage and support.

As other people have said, you’re definitely NOT fat this dress just isn’t fitting you properly.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

greywacke :  Mine was beaded. I understand you. Second hand option will be risky for this gown. At the end of the day my gown was missing a few pearls (not from the straps but at the skirt). The other issue with a second hand will be the dry cleaning. The beading might get damaged during the dry cleaning. 

I also highly recommend you to not to wear a bra with it. I just wore sticky bra under it. I didn’teven get cups sawn into it.

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