To @_Adelaide_: lol, yes I begin Posts that refer to Etiquette with that opening…
It is sort of an ice-breaker if you will.
A laugh at myself, and the whole perceived snobbery (and dead on fear) that the word Etiquette seems to strike in others.
You are Canadian, so I am sure you get the humour in it (Satire being a BIG element in Canadian Humour… our ability to laugh at ourselves)
I hope that my “Snob to the Rescue” element creates a rapport with those looking for such info so that in some way Etiquette becomes less of a mystery / worry for them
And for the most part, I do get a lot of positive feedback how my explaining it makes it easier to understand the WHYs vs just someone say YOU MUST
In reality, I have a long history of a relationship with Etiquette… between my old fashioned Victorian upbringing, my career, and my love of the Gilded Age
BUT at the same time I am a practical woman…
And I convey the “traditional” rules to Bees… and tell them WHY they assumed to be most polite (more so than modern etiquette… which I also talk about in many posts)
BUT more than anything else I also convey that when you CHOOSE to break a Rule of Etiquette there are risks & consequences normally
In the same way, if you are aware of Good Manners and CHOOSE to break one of those Rules (ie Blowing your nose while seated at a Formal Dinner)
No one is going to say… “Hey Gross”… BUT they certainly might think it of you.
The secret when it comes to Manners & Etiquette is knowing your Audience / Guests and what they’d be comfortable with
Because no one really wants to offend… ultimately to be a good host you want the best for your Guests