(Closed) Too few items on registry…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

It is a risk you take…

Altho with or without a Registry it is “technically” the same risk… cause no one can hold your Guests feet to the flame and insist that they only buy you things off the Registry

People will give you things that they would hope you would LOVE & enjoy… maybe in the same way they do

(You have to remember that WHATEVER you get is a BONUS… no one has to give you a present… and that ALL gifts we assume are chosen with you in mind and LOVE)

Truth is tho…

If you have a small Registry, chances are more likely that when your Guests don’t know what to give you, you’ll get Cash, Cheque or a Gift Card

IF that is specifically what you’d prefer to happen, then this is the most logical way to make it so (small Registry)

Cause well… outright asking for money… that is RUDE (no two ways about it)

Hope this helps


Post # 4
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@This Time Round:  do you start all your posts with “etiquette snob here … lol” ? It seems that I read that every day.. haha

Post # 6
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I never buy off of registries, I always give cash or gift cards. From what I’ve read from my years on the boards, if people don’t buy off the registry then they usually do a monetary gift,  generally. You may still get a few ugly vases but I think you would still get those if you had a thousand things on the registry. 

Post # 7
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @_Adelaide_:  lol, yes I begin Posts that refer to Etiquette with that opening…

It is sort of an ice-breaker if you will.

A laugh at myself, and the whole perceived snobbery (and dead on fear) that the word Etiquette seems to strike in others.

You are Canadian, so I am sure you get the humour in it (Satire being a BIG element in Canadian Humour… our ability to laugh at ourselves)

I hope that my “Snob to the Rescue” element creates a rapport with those looking for such info so that in some way Etiquette becomes less of a mystery / worry for them

And for the most part, I do get a lot of positive feedback how my explaining it makes it easier to understand the WHYs vs just someone say YOU MUST

In reality, I have a long history of a relationship with Etiquette… between my old fashioned Victorian upbringing, my career, and my love of the Gilded Age

BUT at the same time I am a practical woman…

And I convey the “traditional” rules to Bees… and tell them WHY they assumed to be most polite (more so than modern etiquette… which I also talk about in many posts)

BUT more than anything else I also convey that when you CHOOSE to break a Rule of Etiquette there are risks & consequences normally

In the same way, if you are aware of Good Manners and CHOOSE to break one of those Rules (ie Blowing your nose while seated at a Formal Dinner)

No one is going to say… “Hey Gross”… BUT they certainly might think it of you.

The secret when it comes to Manners &  Etiquette is knowing your Audience / Guests and what they’d be comfortable with

Because no one really wants to offend… ultimately to be a good host you want the best for your Guests


Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have an amazon registry too, as well as one at the Bay for more traditional gifts. Here’s a link if it gives you any ideas! I also have trouble thinking of more expensive gifts, which I think is fine! People can always combine gifts if they want to be really generous.


Some of the things on our bay registry is nice kitchen knives, pots, and a keurig. 

Post # 10
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@allyfally:  Is there anything that would be nice to upgrade or add to? Linens and towels are always a great bet. Pillows, flatware, serving ware, everyday dishes and glasses, etc are also pretty good options, too. 

Darling Husband was adamant about not wanting presents. I pointed out that without a registry, even a small one, people would get us a bunch of random stuff, but he didn’t want to hear it. Lo and behold, we got some random stuff. Oops. That being said, some people listened when we said we just had too much stuff with too little space and just got us cash or gift cards to restaurants.

Do you think your guests would listen if you spread the request for limited gifts? Maybe they’ll just get your Amazon gift cards since you’re registered there. You can also get family members to spread the word that gift cards to your favorite restaurants would be awesome.


Post # 12
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@allyfally:  Ha! That would be so great, but I know people will cry “bad ettiquette” at you. Seriously though, spread the word for gift card love. Even if only a few people listen, that makes for fewer kleenex box doilies to worry about!


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