(Closed) Too heavy for a fitted dress (bit o' ranty)

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@aliciapdx:  Hey Girl, I feel your pain. I am 5’2″ and between 130 and 118 depending on the time of the year. I am pear shaped (36, 26, 42) and wanted a sheeth dress. Everyone said I was nuts and that it would look aweful on me… until they saw the dress. I was open and tried on a lot of different dresses… even ones I thought I would hate. The truth is you won’t have any idea what its going to look like or fall until its on your body. See if you can do some shopping, take some pics, and post them here. We would be glad to give you some honest helpful (not hateful) opinions.

Big booty girls unite!

Post # 33
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

look beautiful!

and the dresses you are showing aren’t even really what i’d call ‘fitted’. it looks as if you are going for a dropped waist type look.  i think you will look amazing in that kind of dress.

I am 5′ 3″ and I am somewhere between 230 and 250 lbs right now (much bigger than you!). My dress had a slightly dropped waist and it looked amazing on me. made me look so much skinnier!

it’s not quite as dropped as the ones you are looking at, but it should help you see that ‘fitted’ clothing doesn’t make a person look big. it helps, if anything.

srsly, if you are afraid of looking big… the ‘fitted’ parts of the dress are what help make you look thinner.

Post # 34
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In my opinion, girls with curves look great in fitted style, fit and flare, mermaid, etc types of dresses.  I wouldn’t worry about it and get what you feel beautiful in!

Post # 35
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m actually a little upset for you. I am 5’6 and about 150 (pear-shaped) and losing and I will be wearing an allure 8915. Dresses like these are nice on thinner girls, but if you have the confidence to rock it, it’s sexy on a curvy girl. I feel like you should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and ignore what others say. Oh and that pic of you is fine. There’s nothing wrong. You look great. I feel like your friends don’t realize that these dresses can be altered for height. I think you’ll look wonderful!

By The Way my dress is a size 14 even though my street size is a 8-10 if that makes any difference.. Here is mine..


Good luck choosing!

Post # 37
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s hard, isn’t it? I do to a certain extend think it’s a bit unfair though when someone asks you for your opinion and you try to be nice by being honest, you get shot down for it!

Sometimes, I see large girls (ie. on Say Yes To The Dress) buying mermaids and I wonder WHY they want to make themselves look ugly.

HOWEVER, you are not at all large and I think the dress you posted wouldn’t make you look fat and is in fact, probably even really flattering!

Post # 38
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@redband:  maybe they aren’t trying to make themselves look ugly? maybe you are just viewing them with a narrow mind. as randy says often enough… it’s not the size, it’s the sillouette. mermaids look good on certain body shapes, size is secondary to that.

Post # 40
2721 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m 4’11” with a 34 inch bust, 26 inch waist, and 36 inch hips.  I totally rocked a mermaid gown.

Post # 41
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Before dress shopping I told the consultant I wanted a-line natural waist to “hide” my wider hips, bigger butt, and lower belly….and hated every single one of those dresses and felt fat and dumpy. To humor my mother, I put on a very tight fit-and-flare/trumpet…and looked ten thousand times sexier than in any of the dresses that hid my “flaws”. It’s so tight that it holds everything in, my hips look sexy Sofia Vergara rather than dumpy as they did in a-lines and it shows off my waist (which I am accentuating w/ a blingy belt) which then makes me look smaller than if I used fabric to hide everything. My booty is big. It will be big no matter how much weight I lose and no matter what dress I wear, it will be there and it will show. May as well learn to love it and flaunt it! (and marrying a man who loves and worships it doesn’t hurt either Wink, remember that your man loves your shape, he’s the one to impress, not some bitches at work!)

Post # 43
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

What part of Michigan are you in? And i say rock whatever dress you want!!! 

Post # 44
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would have to see pics of you in the dress before I could say what I think would or wouldn’t look good. It’s true that pear shaped girls have to be more careful what style of mermaid/trumpet/dropped waist dress they choose, but if they could find one that looked good on me (and I am not only president of the Fat Bottomed Girls society, I am also co-chair of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee) then surely there’s one out there that will flatter you.

When I had this photo taken, I was 5’5 and a half, and about 180 (that’s perhaps roughly analogous to what your weight would be if you were my height? Not too sure how these things work.)This is the very first store I tried a dress on at–David’s Bridal. I didn’t want to try it on, but the salesgirl insisted, and it looked good IMO.(Um, obviously I need a Spanx, but please ignore that part!)

Basically, what I am trying to say is that I am pretty sure you will be able to find a dress this style that looks great on you, even if you never lose another pound. You just might have to look a little harder, but they’re out there in every budget! Don’t listen to the haters.




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