Post # 1
I have finally set the date and Fiance and I were trying to get a rough plan of the timeline for the wedding day. We thought about the plated dinner we planned on serving at the reception. The problem is we reserved our college’s chapel for the ceremony from 5:30 to 8:30pm (only time available on our day), I know the ceremony will not take 3 hours, but we will need time to decorate, and get ready, a pictures and such plus the ceremony, which may run 3 hours….will people even want to eat that late at night??? (even if they head over after the ceremony ends at around 7:00pm??) I mean the ceremony will already be later at night so everyone will most likely eat before right?
I have not reserved a reception venue yet but the place we were looking for was all inclusive in that they charge a flat price per person for food, drinks, cake etc. included. Do you think it would be wise to even do a plated dinner and pay for all of this if no one wants to eat? Should I look for somewhere else to go and have a cateror that way we don’t have to pay for a full meal if our guests aren’t hungry?
sorry for writing a novel. I would appreciate any advice 🙂
Post # 3
wow….three hour ceremony? may i ask what denomination you are?
Post # 4
Can you find out if you can get in prior to 5:30? If you did a 5:30pm start time – a 45 min ceremony… you could easily do dinner at 7:30. Even if it ran later, I think 8pm start for dinner service would be the latest I would push it.
I’d definitely do a cocktail hour with tons of heavy apps, too.
Also – keep in mind, it will be dark post-ceremony in December – so you’ll likely want to do the bulk of your pictures before the ceremony.
Post # 5
Yeah, as a guest I would definitely eat something before the ceremony. But heavy apps and dessert afterwards would be wonderful.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Meowerson: The ceremony isn’t 3 hours itself, she has 3 hours to use it for decorating it & taking pics & then the ceremony :).
What time is your ceremony starting? Are you wanting to do a plated dinner?
Post # 7
8-8:30 is standard dinner time for me, so personally, I don’t think it’s too late. If your ceremony starts at 5:30 (or even 6, 6:30, or 7), I doubt people will eat dinner beforehand.
I think a 7:30 start time is the absolute earliest you can get away with not serving a meal. And even then, people would still have to eat a pretty early dinner when you take into account the time they will spend getting ready and traveling to the ceremony site.
Post # 8
To restate, I think if you start anywhere from 5:30 – 7, a meal at the reception will be welcome (and expected).
Post # 9
@oracle: Yes I forgot about that; we will most likely be getting ready before it gets dark so we can take some pictures around our campus (its so pretty in the winter time, hopefully there will be snow). I’ll have to see if I can make arrangements to get in earlier since we will be the only ones using the chapel that day 🙂
@atalante: I was definitely thinking lots of deserts 🙂
@canthugallcats: We most likely will try to have the ceremony start around 6 or 6:30 depending on if we can decorate the chapel the day before or not. Thats really the only thing I see taking up time before the ceremony. Since we will all have to be dressed before to take pictures. We would really like to do a plated dinner for our guests as Fiance and I don’t really like the idea of having our guests get up to wait in line for their food.
Thank you for the help! Deserts are definitely a must, and maybe we’ll just choose something light off the menu for a plated meal 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t think its too late, and I think most people would adjust their normal dinner times because they would be expecting a meal for the wedding.
Post # 11
@canthugallcats: ahhhhh i should really read more carefully! thanks for clarifying.
Post # 12
You need to feed your guests a meal. I imagine they’ll try to get to the ceremony no later than 5:45 for a 6:00 start. They might have to leave the house by 5:15 to do so (or earlier). They have to get ready to go, which might begin at 4ish. I would not count on people eating before they come.