Post # 1
FI’s and my parents have never met, even though we’ve been together for 2.5 years. We all live really close, but his mom works nights and it just never happened.
We’re kind of looking for a reason to get everyone together, and I think a “let’s meet the other person’s parents” dinner would be really stiff and awkward.
So…is it too late to have an informal, backyward barbeque engagement party? I was thinking we would just invite the bridal party and his parents (mine would host). E parties aren’t typical in our area, so I’m sure no one would feel obligated to bring a gift to a barbeque, which is perfect.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that we’ve been engaged since August 9 :).
Post # 3
We just got engaged at the end of August and we’re not having our engagement party until November! (We’re not getting married until 2012 though so we’re on a different timeline than you.)
I don’t think it really even sounds like an e-party — we’re invited aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. So I really think that you can just have a bbq and get away with not calling it an e-party. It’s just a get together for everyone to meet each other. I think it’s a great idea!
Post # 4
have an engagement party bbq! it’s not too late. i just went to an engagement party for a couple that has been engaged for almost a year already. we are having the stiff awkward first meeting dinner next month but now you’re inspiring me, maybe we should do something more casual. i am so jealous of the girls who say their parents and ILs get along great and everyone is one big happy family.
Post # 5
We all live in the same town and had been dating 3 years when we got engaged last fall and My parents didnt meet FH’s mom until my shower in august.
I think it would be fine to have a bbq and invite them.
Post # 6
Thanks, guys! His parents are great, but his mom’s kind of shy, so I can’t imagine doing the dinner thing!
Post # 7
I don’t think it too late at all! We got engaged the end of May, and just had our e-party at the beginning of September. We’re also having a 2 year engagement. I think your totally in the clear, plus it sounds like a pretty intimate, informal party, not really like a full fledge e-party.
Post # 8
I think having a bbq and calling it an e-party is an awesome idea :). It would be a great way to ‘break the ice’ between families. Good call! >.<