(Closed) Too Late for an Engagement Party?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If your wedding is a year away, I say go for it! I know a few girls I graduated with who got engaged during school, so they held off on the engagement parties. We just had ours last month. Those who could make it did, those who couldn’t, didn’t. We did more of a bar/club night and if you could come great, but no pressure. I don’t think it is unfair, because it is an invitation, people can say no.

As for the destination wedding, if that is what your heart is set on, go for it, but know that not every guest will be able to attend. We are having a destintaion wedding and worried about it being a bother to our guests. Then I thought, I only get married once, and I want it to be meaningful, so we are going ahead with plans. We decided to do off-season to save guests money and we will be setting up room blocks. Our familes are from different states, so either way people would have to travel. We decided to pick a destination people would want to travel to.

 I think people will be happy to get the invitation, even if they can’t make it. I always think of it as an honor that someone would want to share their special day with me.



Post # 4
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think that’s a great idea!  It’s like a one year pre-anniversary celebration!

You’d be surprised how many people WANT to celebrate with you … we had an engagement party the night we got engaged (my fiance planned it as a suprise to go along with the other big surprise) and people have been asking when we are having an engagement party and I say "we already did!" But they want more parties!  


Post # 5
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Who is going to throw it for you?  I think it is a great idea, but I would hope that you aren’t throwing it yourself.  We skipped the engagement party because no one ever brought it up and we felt weird throwing our own.

Post # 7
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

Do it!!  You deserve an engagement party, my friend!

Post # 8
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Do it!  We didn’t have one because my mom didn’t want anyone to feel like they had to bring a gift, but I sort of wish we would have just thrown one ourselves 🙂 

Post # 9
43 posts
  • Wedding: November 2009

We got engaged in Dec 2008 and are getting married in Nov 2009. I wasn’t planning on an engagement party at all, but my MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man want to throw one for us. Unfortunatley, with current schedules and holidays the earliest we could do is May 9. I did some searching on "ettiquette", and found that as long as the engagement party is more than 6 months before your wedding it’s acceptable.

Maybe you could have your engagement party at someone’s house in Sonoma where your guests are from, than only you and your FH have to travel??

If you’re feeling guilty over a destination wedding, make it easy on your guests to find discount plane tickets and discount hotel/car reservations! We have some people flying in from out of town and so we set up a wedding website with links to Orbitz and Southwest and other airlines that are cheap into Philly. We also linked to discount car reservations. Also, leave more than the required 6 weeks for invites or send Save the Date cards. If they can book their flights 6-8 months in advance, it will save them money – so more will be likely to attend, and you don’t need to feel guilty.

If you have your heart set on a destination wedding- Go for it! You may not get as many guests, but you’ll know the ones who come really wanted to be there!

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