(Closed) Too late to cancel big wedding and just elope?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: Should I change my wedding?
    Elope and have the intimate wedding I'm imagining : (29 votes)
    91 %
    Stick with the original wedding plans : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Have you sent out invitations?

    Honestly, I think its fine regardless. You have to do whats right for you and your soon to be family, financially and mental health wise. If you loose some of your deposits, thats nothing in light of 25 grand that you would rather not spend!

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I didn’t vote because it entirely depends on your situation. Have you invited anybody yet (sent Save-The-Date Cards etc.?). If you haven’t, then go to Hawaii. If you’ve already invited people and they have told you they will be there, then I think you’re stuck having the originally planned wedding. There really isn’t a way to tactfully uninvite people.

    Post # 5
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You only get one day…make it exactly what you want not what anyone else does! If they are people that truly care about you they will understand your situation. If you have already invited people in order to help the letdown maybe you can organize a casual BBQ or some type of get together when you return.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m pretty sure when you make a hotel reservation, they just take your CC info and dont’ charge you until you check out, and won’t charge you if you cancel before 24 hours/48 hours whatever their policy is.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Fall_In_Love22:  This is good. I would elope before the date that you have currently, and then have a casual backyard get together on the reserved date once you get back.

    Post # 9
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Happy7:  Serendipitous. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Happy7:  Your idea sounds lovely!  I cancelled a wedding with 4 months to go and I had already sent out Save-The-Date Cards, but not wedding invitations.  No one has anything booked (with one exception but she is still going on the trip).

    Post # 11
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    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would love to do what you are doing, and be able to take a vacation with family to Hawaii. I say go for it. People can still cancel their reservations, and invitations haven’t been sent out yet. Just create an e-mail or even a letter of some kind explaining the change of plans.

    ETA: every bride deserves the wedding of her dreams; if you have dreamed of an intimate wedding have the intimate wedding.

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