Post # 1
We set a date for September 29, 2012 to be married in a small wedding about 80 people. As we get closer and closer to the date. I’m realizing I’d like to have even a smaller/basic wedding. We have about 5k down in deposits and are budgeted to spend another 25k. This also seems like too much money to spend, especially when the majority of people invited aren’t really that close to us.
I have been thinking that I really would ranther spend that 25k and take our family to hawaii and get married there. Would it be rude to cancel so close to the wedding? I know people have already booked hotels. But then again about 30 people or more aren’t even sure if they can or want to come.
Post # 3
Have you sent out invitations?
Honestly, I think its fine regardless. You have to do whats right for you and your soon to be family, financially and mental health wise. If you loose some of your deposits, thats nothing in light of 25 grand that you would rather not spend!
Post # 4
I didn’t vote because it entirely depends on your situation. Have you invited anybody yet (sent Save-The-Date Cards etc.?). If you haven’t, then go to Hawaii. If you’ve already invited people and they have told you they will be there, then I think you’re stuck having the originally planned wedding. There really isn’t a way to tactfully uninvite people.
Post # 5
You only get one day…make it exactly what you want not what anyone else does! If they are people that truly care about you they will understand your situation. If you have already invited people in order to help the letdown maybe you can organize a casual BBQ or some type of get together when you return.
Post # 6
I’m pretty sure when you make a hotel reservation, they just take your CC info and dont’ charge you until you check out, and won’t charge you if you cancel before 24 hours/48 hours whatever their policy is.
Post # 7
@Fall_In_Love22: This is good. I would elope before the date that you have currently, and then have a casual backyard get together on the reserved date once you get back.
Post # 8
I have already sent save the dates and for the most part only very close family and friends have said they will be going. I do like the idea to get married before hand and have something casual on 9/29. I accidentally sent STD’s that said marriage celebration rather than wedding, so techncally most people were just told about a wedding celebration 🙂
Post # 9
@Happy7: Serendipitous. 🙂
Post # 10
@Happy7: Your idea sounds lovely! I cancelled a wedding with 4 months to go and I had already sent out Save-The-Date Cards, but not wedding invitations. No one has anything booked (with one exception but she is still going on the trip).
Post # 11
I would love to do what you are doing, and be able to take a vacation with family to Hawaii. I say go for it. People can still cancel their reservations, and invitations haven’t been sent out yet. Just create an e-mail or even a letter of some kind explaining the change of plans.
ETA: every bride deserves the wedding of her dreams; if you have dreamed of an intimate wedding have the intimate wedding.