Post # 1
I got engaged to my Fiance January 30th, 2011. Mid February, I thought maybe we could just throw a little engagement party ourselves. Nothing fancy, just a get together at our home with our close friends and family.
Well, my Fiance didn’t want to do that. He wanted someone else to organize the party and do something a little nicer at a restaurant or something. I said “er okay, who do you think will throw this party then?” he just told me to let him handle it.
For the months following that, I’d every so often ask him if we were still going to have a party and he just asked me not to bring it up and he was handling it. I figured he wanted to “surprise” me or something, so I tried to leave it alone.
Well, now it’s been almost 4 months since we got engaged and so I asked my Fiance if that party was still happening because I’m worried now it might be too late to have an engagement party at all. He told me he put my good friend Amanada in charge of it. While I love Amanda dearly, she’s not very good at planning things like that and that pretty much explains why a party never happened… and will probably never happen lol.
I am willing to go back to just throwing a simple party ourselves, but is it too late to have an engagement party now? Has that ship sailed?
Post # 3
If people know you’re engaged the engagement party is pointless, really. They’re meant to announce the engagement to everyone.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s too late, especially since you still have a long while till your wedding. What’s the etiquette on engagement parties–is it officially cool to throw one for yourself?? I can’t remember.
Post # 5
@futuremrshc: My sister had an engagement party just to “celebrate” being engaged, it wasn’t an announcement? Everyone there already knew she was engaged.
Post # 6
@pui.puni: If it’s okay in your circle, go ahead.
Post # 7
Fiance and I got engaged in September. We had our engagement party in February.
We had to figure out a time when everyone could get together, since my parents live on the other side of the country. And Future Mother-In-Law was throwing it so it had to work for her too.
I don’t think it’s too late at all.
We just had a fun, relaxed, informal brunch with a small group and everyone loved it.
Post # 8
@KatNYC2011: I wanted to do something similar… just an afternoon get together with those close to us. 🙂
Post # 9
We are having a party, which will have mostly just the people in our wedding and parents. I was talking to someone and they said ‘like an engagement party’. Not really, but I guess you could say that. We got engaged in Dec ’10. So its not to late for you. We are only really doing it b/c we live in different states and are having my family come to town and meet his friends, so it is def. not an engagement party by any means.