(Closed) Too late to invite? Yay or nay?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it too late to invite these friends to the wedding?



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  • Post # 3
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’d just tell them you’re getting married on 10/8 and ask for their addresses so you can send them an invitation without mentioning that it’s late.  When they see the RSVP date, I’m sure they will deduce that a round of invitations must have gone out sooner, but since they aren’t family or close friends I doubt they’d be offended. 

    Post # 5
    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I see where you’re coming from. I don’t think it’s too late to invite them, and they could certainly think this is the first round of invitations you’re sending, since it’s just a little less than 6 weeks from the wedding… so asking for their addresses and all that shouldn’t bother them.

    The tricky part is the RSVP deadline that’s printed in the invitation. That would worry me, too, and as a guest I would certainly notice it and assume that I was a b-lister. Is there a way to cut that off? I mean literally cut it, if it’s at the bottom? Or can you just print out a different invitation for them — something you make on your computer? They might think you DIY-ed all your invitations. 

    Also, this may not be your style at all, but some people just email their wedding invitations. My sister had one wedding invitation made, scanned it, and sent it out to her whole guest list. It’s kind of a green alternative to the traditional paper invitation. Anyway, if you did that, you could pretty easily (I assume) edit out the RSVP deadline on the scanned image. 

    Just some thoughts!

    Post # 7
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think you should call them (or FB them) and just be honest with them about what happened and why you want them to come. If they get offended and don’t want to come, well, it’s not like you see them often anyway.

    Post # 8
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Just get their addresses TODAY and mail them out tomorrow.  I honestly wouldn’t realize that I was “b” list, but I’m wedding stupid.  I didn’t even realize people did these sorts of things until I planned my own wedding and came here to the Bee.  I would have just thought you procrastinated too long in sending them out.

    Post # 9
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I agree with the PP I think it is best to be honest. Explain to them that you really wanted to incluede them to be at your wedding, But explian that you have budget restraints and you could only invite x amount of people. and that you had to invite your family first. then explain how a few people couldnt make it and how you would love to have them there. I think it would be best to explain the sisuation. if they don’t like it they can chose not to come but its better to be honest.


    if they are true friend they wont mind. I know if I was a former coworker and this happened I would be delighted to go, and I would understand the sisuation….

    Post # 10
    2191 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My girlfriend is getting married the same day you are and we just got her invite at the end of last week!

    You are well within time to send out a couple more but you would need to for sure do it soon.

    ETA. And yes I know I was in the first “round” of invites cause I’m in the wedding lol

    Post # 11
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Just get their addresses and send the asap.  I liked the suggestion of mentioning the wedding is on Oct 8th and to save the date when you ask.

    They have no idea if you had invite printing problems or sending problems etc.  Just send it in the next week and you’ll be FINE.

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