Post # 1
My husband’s uncle died last Monday and the services were this past weekend which we attended. I’m a teacher and had conferences all last week after work so I was super busy and stressed. I hardly had time to go to the store for food. I put the sympathy card in the mail today for Dh’s parents (from just myself). My husband commented that it’s kind of late which made me feel shitty. I feel like etiquette says it’s appropriate for up to two weeks after the death or even longer. Should I feel bad? I don’t want his parents thinking I’m rude but I feel like I’m overthinking this…
Post # 2
I don’t think it’s too late at all. Two weeks is esentially nothing when it comes to the mourning period. I am sure your sympathies will be appreciated by your in laws at this awful time.
Post # 3
when people say anything help, they mean anything. it doesnt matter the time they still feel the loss and its important for them to know they are in your thoughts.
good for you
Post # 4
It’s not too late. Your thoughts and condolences will be appreciated.
Post # 5
Not late at all. Now is when the reality is starting to set in, so your card will be appreciated.
Post # 6
Not too late. And this is the time when things can be really hard because people are going back to their lives after the funeral and the holiday season is starting so it can be a really tender time.
Also- your husband could have taken care of the card, knowing you were busy and stressed (even though you said the card was just from you). What did he send?
Post # 7
Definitely don’t think it’s too late. They will be mourning for months, not just 2 weeks. Agree with a PP that any help or thoughts are appreciated at a time like this. I think you did the right thing.
Post # 8
Definitely not to late and really with the increase in mail around the holidays they could think you sent it sooner but it just took a little longer than normal to get to them so I’m sure they wouldn’t think anything of when it gets to them, they’re probably still recieving sympathy cards from others as well
Post # 9
gatsbymermaid : edited for reading fail. Op, it’s definitely not too late.
Post # 10
You are fine. Two weeks is nothing. His family will be happy that they got one from one.
Post # 11
I personally don’t think it’s ever too late to express sympathy or to show you miss somebody.
Post # 12
I agree with bibliophilacticbee : that it’s never too late to express sympathy. In fact I hear a lot of people say that it sucks when everybody expresses condolences in the 2-3 weeks immediately following a death and then it’s business as usual and they feel forgotten by the world.
Post # 13
Definitely not too late, I’m sure they will appreciate it!
Post # 14
gatsbymermaid : I don’t think it’s too late. How quickly did your husband send his card?