Post # 1
Originally we had planned on having an all outdoor wedding at FI’s aunts property, where space wouldnt be an issue. Well, she has decided to sell this summer and so we had to find a new venue. Today we did! Its a lovely golf course with a great price (i kinda feel like im stealing bc its so cheap!!!). Anyways, I chose my BMS pretty much the day after i got engaged. I have 7 opf them. 1 sister, 3 cousins who im incredibly close with, 2 best friends and my brothers wife, who i use to be clsoe with but they recently got married in a court house and i think she is having a little resentment towards me for planning a big wedding with all the bells and whistles. but to the point now, the new ceremony site where we will be standing does NOT have room for a bridal party of 14 plus us plus the officiant.
what should i do?! who do i cut?!
if i cut my SIL i think my brother will be upset with me. Him and I are very close and I even work for him so i dont want to make anything weird… I am so lost and conmfused about this.
I think there is room for 4 BM’s….
1 month in to planning and im already wanting to elope! yikes!
Post # 3
I think you should keep them all—unless you’re up for dealing with some serious unneed stress and drama. There is no rule that all of your wedding party HAS to stand up with you when you say your vows. Just have them walk in and sit in the first row, and have only your maid of honor and best man stand up with you.
Post # 4
@BrooklynWife: I love that idea.
@maylove13: It would start a lot of problems to cut people from you bridal party if you have already asked them. People get upset about not being asked to be in a wedding, so imagine how upset you would be if someone told you that you were no longer in the wedding because there isn’t enough room for you to stand up there. Personally I would be really upset. I really like the idea of keeping them all in the wedding, but allowing them to sit in places of honor instead of standing during the ceremony.
Post # 5
Oiy. I definitely wouldn’t “cut” anyone. Could you have the tallest 4 ladies stand in one row beside you, and the shorter 3 stand in front of the tall ones?
Post # 7
You could have a bench where half could sit in front, while the other half stand behind the bench. You would have had a hard time finding any venue that would have had space for a bridal party that large! I think the bench or staggering idea will give them a better chance of actually being in the pictures, too – they wouldn’t all be in the pictures if they were single file.
Post # 8
I never even thought of those ideas! I really like the thought of the shorter ones in front, but they are all just about the same height, so the bench idea could totally work! thanks for the help 🙂