(Closed) Too Many Bridesmaids!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@melika: Honestly, your childhood friend should NOT be mad about you not having her in your wedding just because you were her Maid/Matron of Honor. That was HER choice, and this is yours. Unfortunately I know that’s not always how it works…

Are you Catholic?

Or maybe she could also do some sort of reading? Maybe a poem?

Post # 4
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Have her do a reading.  One of my BFs is in her 40s, married, with 4 kids and did not feel comfortable in the bridesmaid role.  She will be doing a reading in the ceremony instead.  I had a talk with her and told her I still wanted her involved in everything and she agrees.  Don’t feel guilted into making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man in your party just because you were her Maid/Matron of Honor.  Like it was said that was her choice.  Good luck!

Post # 5
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could always have a Matron of honor, but that just adds to the bridal party. You could have her as a bridesmaid and your little sister as the flower girl 🙂 She could be your day of coordinator, which I feel may be even more important than a Bridesmaid or Best Man. You could have her give a speech at your reception. You could have her hand out programs or be a female usher. I’m sure if you are just straight up that she is important to you, she will be happy to just be helpful in anyway you can. If she is big on crafts you could ask her to be the “craft leader” or “craft guide” to any DIY projects you hope to tackle.

Post # 6
25 posts

If you DO want her in her wedding… I agree with the above poster who suggested having her as a Matron of Honor possibly… The Matron is almost always married. I don’t know how a poem or reading would really “incorporate” anyone into a wedding in a special way. To me it is no different than hiring a singer, etc… I could be wrong.. If you don’t want her in your wedding then that is your choice. SOme people are really sensitive about this kind of thing so you have to weight the pros and cons of both

Post # 7
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I actually have 10 BM! haha. Same situation.. i was stressin for literally a year on this and finally made up my mind and have felt so much better. I tried to picture what it would be like with out them being BMs.. and how our relationship would change?.. what it would be like seeing them in the crowd instead of my BMs and blah blah.. just realized there is no rule.. do what you want on your wedding.. be happy! hope this helped..

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