(Closed) Too many bridesmaids?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have 8 bridesmaid and I have had no problems at all.  They are all super important to me and I need them all by my side.  They are all great people so “wrangling” them on detials has been easy.  I am not asking a lot of them and I am laid back so I have found it very easy.  If you love them all and want them next to you than do it.  Who cares what other people think, it’s your wedding!

Post # 17
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332 posts
Helper bee

If you can afford it, go for it. I planned on having 6 bridesmaids, and unfortunately could only afford 2. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Phillygirl30:  As others have said… to me, that is a lot. But, if you want that many – go for it. There is no rule on number. Just be aware that it may be more difficult picking out a dress or a style that will make everyone happy.

I only had 2… it was perfect.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I am havng 7 bridesmaids and about 100 guests. I don’t really care if people think it is too many people. These girls are my friends and deserve to be standing next to me. 

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

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Phillygirl30:   I will likely be having 11… I have 8 indispensable best friends and then FI’s sister, my sister, and cousin. Do you! it’s about celebrating and honoring the people in your life who made you who you are so that you can be the best version of you entering into marriage. It’s not about numbers or proportions, IMO 😉 

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

It’s completely up to you. Darling Husband and I had 250 guests and I had 6 bridesmaids. I actually started with 10 but drama ensued and 4 dropped out. Anyway, whatever you want to do, go for it! It’s your wedding!

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Phillygirl30:  I had 94 guests and 7 bridesmaids. I dont think its a big deal at all and our wedding didnt look weird or anything.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a 100 person wedding. Husband had 7 Groomsmen I had 6 BMs. It was fantastic and fun! Go for it! I don’t know why everyone is against it so far. It wasnt that hard wrangling them and if they are paying for their own attire the extra cost is just gifts and bouquets. 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Phillygirl30:  The number of bridesmaids is completely situational and varies depending on so many different things that asking if it’s “okay” is silly. What’s “okay” to one bride is not okay to another. Personally, if these are girls who you are close to and can’t imagine not having at your wedding, then you should absolutely ask them. Who cares if you have seven bridesmaids for a 100 wedding? Who decided that you can only have a large bridal party if you have a large wedding?

For what it’s worth, I had an 80-ish person wedding and had 8 bridesmaids. I give zero fucks if people think it was too much or what have you, but I can pretty assuredly promise that NO ONE even thoguht twice about how many bridesmaids I had. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

It’s really whatever YOU want. I went to a wedding once where there was a huge wedding party (probably at least 7-10 up there on each side) but there weren’t that many out in the audience (I never can remember the word for the guests lol… not congregation, not really audience, but oh well). It was the same people who would have been invited anyway, they just stood up with the couple instead of sitting down (then again, the bride had two sisters, 3 cousins, her high school best friend, her college best friend, and I think it was the same for the guy) so it was mostly family up there anyway, people who would have been there regardless. On the other hand, in her case, her grandmother is an amazing seamstress and made all the dresses for the entire bridal party (I wish I had a picture). 

So it’s really to each their own. What may seem silly to one person may be perfect for another and vice versa. Just like some people can’t fathom the idea of a bridesmaid being told what to wear/how to wear their hair/makeup, and others might be hoping for all that because they wouldn’t know where to start (I’m one of those people… I never know how to even fix my hair for work, much less someone’s wedding, so if they said “wear your hair like this” I’d be glad I didn’t have to figure it out myself). 

In the end, there really is no wrong, or right, thing to a wedding. Every person, every wedding, and every situation, is going to be different. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Phillygirl30:  I had 6 people in the bridal party (guest size of 120) and that was a lot in my opinion. I feel 3 – 4 total would be a better number. However, it’s your wedding, so have as many people as you want. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Meh – it’s really up to you and what you want and can afford (and how much potential drama you can tolerate).  7 or 8 is WAY too many for me, no matter how many guests there are.  I chose not to have my sisters in my wedding because 5 was too many for me too.  But if you’re comfortable with 8, and if you can afford 8, and if you think they will all get along and come to agreements about dresses and pre-party details, then go for it.  

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Grandover Resort

It may be a lot proportionally but it’s completely up to you! 

My Fiance has 14 groomsmen (4 are best men). He has a lot of close friendships because of his profession and what they do. I have 8 bridesmaids (2 MOH). 3 cousins & the rest are good friends I grew up with.

250 people will be invited to the wedding.

Most people would say that’s a lot & silly to not have at least close to matching amount of people. But neither of us, especially him could imagine cutting people out of the wedding just for the sake of what other people think. 

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Phillygirl30:  I think that’s a lot. I know you may be close to all 8, but the more bridesmaids you have, the more likely you’ll run into drama (sometimes really big drama). I stuck with one maid of honor and two bridesmaids and we still had enough drama to go around for a few years to come 🙂

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I don’t feel it’s a lot. I have 9 and two junior BMs – I have three sisters and my fiance has 2 therefore it was important to us to include them. I also then included the friends I’ve been closest with throughout my life. It’s your day – don’t feel bad or anxious about having ‘too many’ women that love and care about you enough to make your engagement and wedding day extra special.

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