(Closed) Too many bridesmaids?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
Hostess
4067 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I don’t think it’s odd. Fiance and I each have 6, but two of my friends had 8 on each side (actually, I think one had 8 BMs and 10 GMs) with about 120 guests. I think as long as you’re really close to all of these women and can’t imagine getting married without them by your side, then you should ask them! The head table shouldn’t be important; head tables are the worst anyway.

Post # 32
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I have 8 and Fiance has 5.  It’s more important to include people you care about then to worry about numbers.  I was just 1 or 13 BMs which yes was a bit much but we had so much fun, the church was huge so it looked nice, and she had a pallette of colors with each individual picking their own dress so that process was easy and we didnt look like an army of BMs.  You are totally fine with 8

Post # 33
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I had 9 bridesmaids.  I was a little embarassed about it but it worked out really well and was a lot of fun.  I really felt I needed to include everyone, including our four sisters and I’m so glad I did.

Post # 34
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3610 posts
Sugar bee

8 BMs is a bit much for me, personally. We’re not doing a wedding party, but if we had, I would have maxed out at 6 and probably ended up picking 4 or 5. Smaller WPs are more elegant, IMO, but on the other hand, hurting people’s feelings to have an exclusive wedding party isn’t worth it. I have a friend who has 8 BMs because she’s one of those people who has an easy time making friends and also retaining them, so she has tons of close friends from various life stages and didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not including them. I can see why she did it that way, but even she is worried that it will be too unwieldy and there will be conflicting egos. Anyway, if you’re doing it just for the sake of having a big wedding party in pictures, I wouldn’t because that’s try-hard and treats people like they’re props, but if you’re doing it because you legitimately have that many close friends and family and don’t want to exclude anyone, that’s different.

Post # 35
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Yes possibly too many. Dear god, I’m re-imagining the drama I had with 4 (although mostly due to one!). But if you can keep them all in line then go for it!!!!

Post # 36
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have 8 bridesmaids (1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 7 BM), and I don’t regret it in the least bit. They are all extremely important to me! That’s all that matters. 🙂

Post # 37
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1199 posts
Bumble bee

I have 8 – my sister, stepsister, his sister, my best friend (and MOH) and my 4 other close friends from college who are kind of a package deal. My choices were between 4 or 8, and at the end of the day I chose to have all of my best friends up there with me–you can’t get that chance back!

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