Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been loosely planning our wedding for the past year, just to get an idea of budget, theme/color scheme, venue, etc. and I’ve been worrying myself about my bridesmaids. I don’t necessarily think that the number of bridesmaids have to be equal to number of groomsmen, but I’d like it to be fairly close.
Here is my problem, I want my best friend since childhood to be my Maid of Honor. She was originally going to be my Matron of Honor, but her engagement fell through. I also want my FI’s sister to by my other Maid of Honor since her and I have become so close, and I feel like it’d be a nice nod towards her and their family since a wedding is not about two people, but two families joining. Is it weird to have two Maids of Honor? Because I really want both of them to be.
Also, I think my bridal party might explode. I originally thought five total girls was the perfect number, but then my mother insisted I ask her best friend’s daughter to be in my wedding since we’ve known each other since birth and are the same age (but we are totally different people, aren’t really friends, and only see each other once a year). So, I’ve decided to bite the bullet and include her since, well, I agree that it’s only fair because I know she’d ask me in a second to be her bridesmaid if she were the one getting married. Just recently, I decided to add one more girl to my bridal party because we’ve been friends throughout college and we have so much in common. She also just got engaged and I feel like it’s just one more thing her and I share together.
TL;DR: Is seven girls too many to have in a bridal party? Is asking two important women in my life to be my Maid of Honor weird? They honestly wouldn’t have to do a thing for me and all of the girls will be able to decide their own dress budget. I just want to honor all these ladies in my life by asking them to stand beside me as I get married. My Fiance is probably only going to have 4-5 groomsmen.
Post # 2
I’m afraid I have nothing to contribute. But upon seeing your AVI, I jumped and thought “whoa, when in the world did I post that?!”
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
No it’s not too many, no it’s not weird. Do what you want!
Post # 4
Haha, too funny! I noticed there are quite a few peacock avatars on here. I’ve done the same thing myself!
Post # 5
We’re having a relatively small wedding (80 guests) but we’re having a large wedding party too! 7 (including two MOHs) for me and 7 (including one best man) for my fiancé. We just wanted everyone close to us to be able to partake in everything leading up to the wedding and have a role in our special day. Just do whatever you and your fiancé want, it’s your day!
Post # 6
I’ve always been told that to look balanced, you should have one attendant per every 50 guests. That being said, do what makes you happy. If you want 7, have 7!
Post # 7
I don’t think its weird or inappropriate or anything but I would just consider the costs to yourself and coordination of having 7 girls. You will need to get them all a gift, will you be paying for hair or makeup or anything, just consider those things. Also, its more difficult to wrangle 7 girls to buy their dresses or make any decisions. I think two maids of honor is perfectly fine.
Post # 8
I’m going to have 7 and my SO will have 5. There is no way I can leave out anyone of my 7. Plus I just don’t want to add 2 more guys just because. I say have your 7 who cares if it’s uneven. No one pays attention anyway.
Post # 9
I think it’s fine. My friend had 3 MOHs and 6 BMs while her husband had 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 6 Groomsmen. It worked out perfectly.
Post # 10
That’s exactly how I feel! These ladies mean a lot to me and I’d love for them to partake in our day!
Thanks! I never thought I’d have more than four or five, but nothing ever goes the way planned it, does it?
I completely understand. Luckily these girls are all similar body type and have similar taste. I’ll be with them every step of the way, but I want them to talk through how much they’re willing to pay for their dress. The makeup/hair artist I have has a flat rate for your bridal party, so it would be the same price regardless if I had two girls or twelve, which is nice. As for a gift, I already have that covered! 🙂 Thank you for your input!
Post # 11
Sounds great to me! I’m happy with all this reassurance. I know my mother is extremely particular about EVERYTHING, so I feel she’ll be the only one that’s going to pipe up about how weird/wrong/non-traditional it is.
Three?! That definitely makes me feel better. Sounds crazy, but I’d make all these girls Maids of Honor if I could! Haha.
Post # 12
I had a maid of honor, a matron of honor, and 7 bridesmaids 🙂 do whatever makes you happy!!!
Post # 13
This is coming from the voice of experience, and from someone who is ready to strangle half of her bridal party….. do not put people in your party that you are not close with. I made that mistake to honor my FI’s side of the family (I put in a few of his cousins that I actually had a good relationship with but now I’m borderline crazy and ready to start throwing punches. I’ve never dealt with bigger bitches. And I used to like these girls!).
Oh and I have 10 bridesmaids. If I could have 3, I would.
The more you have, the more opinions, the more body types, the more DRAMA.
Totally not worth it
Post # 14
I agree with you there! The only one I’m truly, truly worried about is my mother’s friend’s daughter. She lives in the midwest of the US and I live in the northeast, so that’s why we hardly see each other. She’s very outgoing and headstrong, and likes to have her way and makes a lot of choices (involving drugs) I don’t approve of.
The one time she visited, she brought weed into my house, smoked it, and snuck alcohol from our liquor cabinet while we all slept (she bragged about it me the following morning) and her mother defended her. It didn’t go over well…
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
I have two maids of honor. It’s your wedding!