Post # 1
My fiancé and I each had two cats before we met. Now that we live together we have four cats (and five litter boxes) in a tiny two bedroom apartment. To make matters worse the two sets of cats do not get along. In fact, we have to keep mine isolated in the bedroom or else one of his will attack them. Also, my two girls are ragdoll mixes and have longer hair. Despite continually vacuuming and washing the sheets the bedroom is always filled with hair. Consequently, I wake up every morning with my nose stuffed up.
Now, I’ve never thought I would ever consider it but I am thinking about putting my girls up for adoption. They have a really bad quality of life right now because they never leave the bedroom. I would make sure they went to a good home. Every time I mention this to my fiancé he brings up the fact that it wouldn’t be an issue if we had bought a house last winter like we wanted. At the time my family wasn’t very supportive of us buying a house together when we weren’t married so the house buying fell though. My fiancé loves the cats and won’t entertain the idea of putting two up for adoption. I feel horrible about even considering it but I feel so bad for them. We rarely fight but the few times I get annoyed with him it is somehow related to the cats.
We do plan on buying a house after the wedding in June and I probably will have to stick it out. It’s just frustrating at times.
Have any of you ever dealt with a similar situation? How did you deal with it? Thanks!
Post # 3
Well, my situation is a tad bit different. I added a new cat to my little family about 7 months ago and my old cat HATED it…to the point where she would not come out from underneath the bed. I literally had to put a food/water bowl under the bed so she wouldn’t starve. And then I had to add a litterbox to the bedroom (ewww) for several months. At first I worked hard to keep the cats separated, but after awhile, I just let them be and work out their differences (thankfully, my 2nd cat is just curious and playful…not a bully). About 5 months later, something clicked and the old cat came out of her funk. I don’t know what it was, maybe she decided she didn’t want to spend the rest of her life under a bed, but now her and the other cat get along. I wouldn’t say they are BFFs, but we do catch them snuggling from time to time.
If you can, I would say stick it out until you have a bigger place. It could be that your FI’s cats are making a strong territory claim, and when you have a bigger home, each group of cats can have their own space to roam 🙂
Post # 4
This may sound like a weird suggestion, but can you shave the two long haired cats so there’s less hair around the apartment? I know cats shed a ton, I wouldn’t want to live with 4, but then again, I am a dog person. If you know for sure that you’ll be moving after the wedding, I’d stick it out… I could never sell my pets, how attached are you to them, would you regret it?
Post # 5
@europomme:I really hate myself for even considering selling my pets. I never thought I would be that person. I hadn’t thought about shaving my cats untill a couple days ago. The idea came about because they have bad matts. It could be worth looking into.
@JsDragonfly: I hope our situation improves too! The biggest reason behind considering selling them is because I feel so bad for them being stuck in our small bedroom. We have lived together for almost a year and we just started keeping the bedroom door closed about two months ago. Joe’s cat Z would even go into the bedroom and gard the bed so that my girls were forced to stay under the bed continually. We closed the door so that they could at least roam around that room.
Thank you both!
Post # 6
@rlthomas: I hope you don’t have to give your babies up 🙁 that would be so sad. I definitely understand the quality of life concern though. I agree with the other bees, possibly try shaving? Also, and you may have tried this, but have you let them spend time together and try to get adjusted? Maybe with some more time it will be okay, or at least improve?