Post # 1
I really want my bridesmaids to do their own look, within a certain parameter, but it seems like they’re a little paralyzed by indecision, like I’m giving them too many choices. I picked a length, color, fabric and designer for the dress, and they finally did choose their individual styles, but now the shoes and the jewelry seem to be the next big hurdle. I wanted them to get whatever shoes they wanted as long as they were within our color scheme. I love the eclectic look, and want them to buy what they’ll wear again. But they seem uncertain still, and I kind of am starting to feel difficult in a different way than the bride who tries to control everything – the bride who won’t just make a decision and tell her girls what to do. Yet I have made a decision – to let them do what they want, within certain guidelines.
After we all met this afternoon, one bridesmaid emailed us all with a link to Zappo’s and suggested I should go on there and pick out some shoes I might like to see them get. I realize they just want me to have a great day and have everything be just how I want it, but 1. Them looking and feelin their best is what I want, and 2. I REALLY don’t want to have to manage these details along with everything else 🙁
Anybody else struggled with this too?
Post # 3
I know what you mean! My BMs are all wearing the same dress that I chose but they can wear any shoes & jewelry they want and they can do their hair & makeup however they’d like. I guess this is more freedom than some girls are used to because I keep getting pics of shoes and hair especially and they ask what I think. I never say I don’t like something because I won’t be the one wearing it! Plus I trust them all to choose cute things based on their individual styles. I just wish some of the BMs would trust themselves too! I keep telling them whatever they choose will be fine.
Post # 4
I am going through the EXACT SAME THING!! I want each of my girls to look their best. I mean I have a few BM’s dresses in my closet that I HATE and didn’t want to do that to my friends. I happen to think that they are all hot and pictures are forever so why shouldn’t they look their best? I picked the designer, color, fabric and length and they were supposed to pick their own style. The kept asking me questions about which one I wanted them to where and they didn’t seem to realize that me saying that it really didn’t matter to me as long as they followed the parameters. My Maid/Matron of Honor just wants me to pick a dress for her. It is so frustrating!! I completely agree with you that I don’t want to manage this part because, hello, I have a WEDDIN to plan. I think they finally just realized that I truly do want them to pick their own dresses and to look their best and are all in the process of picking the dresses now. I have no clue how the shoes and accessories will go. I was thinking of making their jewelry for each dress style.
I love the fact that they want to make my day my day, but I just want them to get dresses that they would wear again.
Hugs! I hope it all goes well for you!