(Closed) Too Many Groomsmen – Not enough bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Squash attendants or ask someone who isn't that close.
    Squash having attendants : (9 votes)
    53 %
    Ask people to be an attendant that aren't that close to the couple : (8 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    How many do you have of each?  It’s pretty common to have a different number on each side, but obviously you don’t want to be uncomfortable. 

    Post # 4
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There’s no rule that says you have to have the same number of attendants each. Fi has one extra guy on his side (I got 2 flower girls though). I decided that having equal number didn’t mean as much to me as having my few closest friends with me.

    Also depending on your ceremony, could you ask some of the guys to be ushers?

    Post # 5
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Who says you have to have an even number? My Fiance has 3-4 that he wants, and right now there is only 1 that I want. 

    I don’t think it’s a big deal to have uneven numbers. But if that makes you uncomfortable ask people to stand in for you; because if your Fiance wants his closest and dearest to be in the wedding he should be allowed to IMHO 

    Post # 6
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i don’t think it’s so bad to have an uneven number of attendants. and i don’t think you should ask someone to be a bridesmaid because you feel like you have to. if i found out i was in a wedding just for the sake of filling a spot, i would be a little hurt. 

    Post # 7
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You don’t have to have the same number!

    Post # 8
    1643 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I agree with PPs, I won’t quash his or add yours, mix-match, it’s your day…  there are no rules!  😀

    Post # 9
    6247 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Neither of those two poll options.

    I have 5 bridesmaids.  Fiance has 3 groomsmen.  We’re not adding in some random people just to make things even. 


    Post # 10
    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Another vote for uneven numbers being fine! But I would also let your fiance know that it is okay to not ask a guy to be a groomsman just because he was asked to be in their wedding. He should want to ask them because they’re really close, not because he was in their wedding.

    Post # 13
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Fiance has 7 groomsmen and I have 4 lovely ladies. All are important to us, so we want them in our wedding. I wouldn’t ask a bunch of gals that I wouldn’t really want to be included in our day just to balance the bridal party.

    Post # 14
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @Lewis345:  What about asking a few of his guys to be ushers instead?  That’s what we did – I only have one attendent, he had five.  Four are ushers, so we have one each.

    Post # 15
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Just do what would make you comfortable. We are having 3 girls and 1 guy. I was uncomfortable with it at first, but someone on the boards pointed out that the only person who will notice is you – so just do what makes you happy.

    Post # 16
    23597 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    How many does he have?  Uneven is totally okay!

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