Post # 1
Okay so my Fiance has so many friends he wants to consider for groomsmen. I do appreciate the fact that they love him enough to have him in their wedding and he wants to return the favor. However, I do not want a big bridal party and do not have enough girlfriends that I would consider putting in the party.
So my question would be this – do I just tell the Fiance that we are squashing the thought of having attendants? ORRRRR Do I ask additional ladies to be a bridesmaid whom I don’t think should….
Any advice would be so helpful! THANKS
Post # 3
How many do you have of each? It’s pretty common to have a different number on each side, but obviously you don’t want to be uncomfortable.
Post # 4
There’s no rule that says you have to have the same number of attendants each. Fi has one extra guy on his side (I got 2 flower girls though). I decided that having equal number didn’t mean as much to me as having my few closest friends with me.
Also depending on your ceremony, could you ask some of the guys to be ushers?
Post # 5
Who says you have to have an even number? My Fiance has 3-4 that he wants, and right now there is only 1 that I want.
I don’t think it’s a big deal to have uneven numbers. But if that makes you uncomfortable ask people to stand in for you; because if your Fiance wants his closest and dearest to be in the wedding he should be allowed to IMHO
Post # 6
i don’t think it’s so bad to have an uneven number of attendants. and i don’t think you should ask someone to be a bridesmaid because you feel like you have to. if i found out i was in a wedding just for the sake of filling a spot, i would be a little hurt.
Post # 7
You don’t have to have the same number!
Post # 8
I agree with PPs, I won’t quash his or add yours, mix-match, it’s your day… there are no rules! 😀
Post # 9
Neither of those two poll options.
I have 5 bridesmaids. Fiance has 3 groomsmen. We’re not adding in some random people just to make things even.
Post # 10
Another vote for uneven numbers being fine! But I would also let your fiance know that it is okay to not ask a guy to be a groomsman just because he was asked to be in their wedding. He should want to ask them because they’re really close, not because he was in their wedding.
Post # 11
He has 6 and I only considered 2… I just feel it would look so uneven.
Post # 12
But I do appreciate all your comments. Maybe if I just add 2 more, then it won’t be so bad….
Thanks girls! 🙂
Post # 13
My Fiance has 7 groomsmen and I have 4 lovely ladies. All are important to us, so we want them in our wedding. I wouldn’t ask a bunch of gals that I wouldn’t really want to be included in our day just to balance the bridal party.
Post # 14
@Lewis345: What about asking a few of his guys to be ushers instead? That’s what we did – I only have one attendent, he had five. Four are ushers, so we have one each.
Post # 15
Just do what would make you comfortable. We are having 3 girls and 1 guy. I was uncomfortable with it at first, but someone on the boards pointed out that the only person who will notice is you – so just do what makes you happy.
Post # 16
How many does he have? Uneven is totally okay!