(Closed) Too many guests for ceremony venue!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What to do?
    reprint just what is needed for the non-ceremony guests : (3 votes)
    19 %
    print all new invites for everyone! yay! : (13 votes)
    81 %
  • Post # 3
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I say this is all in very bad taste. You shouldn’t be inviting people if they won’t fit into your venue. You should either change your ceremony venue to fit a larger amout of people, or cut your guest list to 65, and have a “B” list for when people decline. I would be incredibly offended if I was asked not to come to the ceremony!

    Post # 4
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    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wouldn’t be incredibly offended but I would think it was odd and consider not coming at all. Is there any way you can have the ceremony at your house?

    Post # 5
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Agree with the other PPs. I would think “So I am good enough to be invited for a present, but not close enough to witness the ceremony”

    Maybe this is more common in your circle. Is this the case?

    Post # 6
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    See, I think that it’s OK to not go to the ceremony… hell, this happened to me (granted, my two friends eloped, but it was still totally OK).  PS- those invites are adorable!

    Post # 6
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    double post

    Post # 8
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I disagree with PPs. I know this was not the exact question, but plenty of people invite close friends/family to the ceremony&reception and then a larger group to the reception only. Thats why there are specific “reception” invitations on all the invitation websites….

    Its not gift grabby in the least! Ceremonies are very emotional things, not all couples are comfortable showing those emotions in front of their third cousin twice removed.

    Post # 13
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    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Honestly, yes, some people might have intimate ceremonies and lots of people are doing this a list b list, different invitation thing and blah, blah, blah but it still doesn’t make it right. 

    The question was posed on whether to print her invitations like this. Before she should even print them, she should consider the implications of a guest list that seems to have expanded out of control and doubled in size and could impede the mood of her day and the relationships with people she holds close enough to consider inviting at all.

    So no, she didn’t ask if it was right or wrong, but if there is another option , she should heavily consider it. A wedding might be very important and yes, in the midst of it, so is the relationship and the symbolism of the day, but you also want to treat your guests like gold. Why would you even bother asking them to celebrate with you if you didn’t want to do that?

    Post # 15
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    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Also, the reception cards I have seen are not to separate lists but to indicate when the ceremony is held at a different location from the reception and another address needs to be shared (along with accomodations and parking information).  

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