- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I feel like an idiot for getting myself into this mess, but here I am. First, a bit of background. Our reception venue is brand new and has changed the capacity on us a number of times–anywhere between 150 and 80 people! Thankfully we have settled at 125 which is do-able.
Now for the bad part. When I sent out the save the dates, they had told us a higher number, so I budgeted more people than I can now accomodate. In addition, I sent out a number of courtesy save the dates after my mother insisted (stupid, stupid, stupid) and swore these people wouldn’t come anyway. Well guess what: they’re coming. Now I have more guests than seats and am trying to figure out what to do.
I know it’s extremely bad form, but I have to send out the invitations soon and I’m considering sending out less invitations than save the dates, and getting rid of the courtesy invites even though these people have said they want to come and just telling them that we are flattered but unfortunately we cannot accomodate them.
Another option is to have an A list and a B list, but this leaves me in the same situation if too many A people say yes.
At this point I’m looking for the least offensive option where I can be sure that I don’t have too many people. I’m also considering wording the RSVP very strongly (i.e. “Seating is extremely limited. RSVPs will not be accepted after ______.)
Have any of you been in this situation? Any advice?