Post # 1
hello everyone! i’m starting to plan my wedding and i’ve got a little bridesmaid dilemma. i’ve got one person i want as my maid of honor. but to be honest, i don’t really want any other bridesmaids. this is normally fine however, i’ve got a total of 11 girls on both sides (mine and FI) who want to take part. how do i include them? we are only have a best man and besides, there arent even enough men to even out all the girls.
is there a way to include them? can i have them be my bridesmaids and have them sit in the pews instead of standing with me at the altar? or is there a way to incorporate them into my wedding without them being bridesmaids?
we don’t know where to start and i knew that all of you would be my best help. thanks so much!
Post # 3
They could sit on the front row of the pew instead of standing beside you. 🙂
But in the end, if you don’t want bridesmaids, you don’t ask them. It’s your wedding, they can help some other way.
Post # 4
Explain that you love all of them, but you’re each only having one honor attendant. You can do readings, but 11 is a LOT!
Post # 5
you can do readings, ushers, sponsors (if you’re catholic), or help with the reception–MC, help the guests find their seats, be a guestbook attendant, etc..
Post # 6
Ditto with asking some of them to be ushers. A coworker had a gorgeous, black tie wedding and asked two of her friends to act as ushers. They wore floor-length gowns that they chose and helped guests find their seats at the ceremony.
I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding last year and she asked some girlfriends to do readings during the ceremony. They felt included and were happy!
In the end, this is your decision. It’s sweet that everyone wants to help out, but you have veto power, girl!! You’re the bride!