(Closed) Too many maids!!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll:
    It's too late, and it's you're wedding anyway, enjoy your pile of girls : (22 votes)
    65 %
    See how things go your last maid, if she becomes estranged ask her if she'd be happier as a guest : (8 votes)
    24 %
    Use the two sisters as maids, explain to other girls that the wedding is smaller than you expected : (4 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    171 posts
    Blushing bee

    I want to have a small wedding as well and I have a group of girlfriends that I have known since I was young, but I have decided that I’m either going to have ALL(6 + MOH) of them in the wedding, or just have a Maid/Matron of Honor.

    I understand what you mean that it might look funny with so many people up there with you and not that many guests, but its your wedding and you can do whatever you want. If these people are important to you, who cares if it looks a little lopsided.

    Maybe you can have everyone in the wedding party walk down the isle but when they get to the end they can sit in the first row and just have your Maid/Matron of Honor stand up there with you. It seems like a good compromise.

    I think if you ask the girl if she would be more comfortable as a guest her answer is going to be “no” and you might end up hurting a friendship. Since you have already asked them it seems like you would have to honor that.

    Post # 4
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    i have way more and i’m just excited for all of them to be around me on my big day. some people are more into it than others, but that’s ok! if your friendship is really lacking w/ the last maid, you can always ask her if she’d rather just be a guest. good luck!

    Post # 5
    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Darling Husband and I had 5 on each side with 80 guests in attendance, I think it looked fine!

    Post # 6
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i wouldn’t debridesmaid anyone, you would definetly risk hurting feelings and ruining friendships, it’s just not worth it, even if you feel like your losing touch with one of them. unless she says something, it’s just not nice. and like everyone’s saying, it’s your wedding and you can have as many people as you want up there. i think there are many pros and cons to a big bridal party, but a big pro is you’ll have tons of help and support on your big day. it sounds like you have lots of good friends and you’ll probably be sad if they’re not there with you.

    Post # 7
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s cute that you asked all of them. Honestly, it’s you’re wedding. If you want all 80 of your guests up there DO IT (okay, maybe not ALL of them, but you know…).

    If all of those girls are special to you go for it.

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