Post # 1
My Fiance proposed to me about 4 months ago. I was thrilled to say the least, and the first thing that I did (ok, maybe the second or the third) was call all of my girlfriends and tell them. But in my excitement I may have asked a few too many to be bridesmaids.
We’re having a small wedding, right around 80 guests and I have this group of four girlfriends that I’m pretty much equally close to. So I asked them ALL. And on top of that, I asked my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and Mike’s sister to ALSO be a bridesmaid. So that’s 6 bridesmaids in a wedding of 80 guests, which for some reason seems a little disproportionate in my mind. I also just moved across the country, and I’ve done a pretty shoddy job of keeping in touch with one of my ladies (and she hasn’t done a very good job of trying to keep in contact with me either) and I’m worried that by the time the wedding rolls around in 10 months, we’ll be completely estranged.
What should I do?
Post # 3
I want to have a small wedding as well and I have a group of girlfriends that I have known since I was young, but I have decided that I’m either going to have ALL(6 + MOH) of them in the wedding, or just have a Maid/Matron of Honor.
I understand what you mean that it might look funny with so many people up there with you and not that many guests, but its your wedding and you can do whatever you want. If these people are important to you, who cares if it looks a little lopsided.
Maybe you can have everyone in the wedding party walk down the isle but when they get to the end they can sit in the first row and just have your Maid/Matron of Honor stand up there with you. It seems like a good compromise.
I think if you ask the girl if she would be more comfortable as a guest her answer is going to be “no” and you might end up hurting a friendship. Since you have already asked them it seems like you would have to honor that.
Post # 4
i have way more and i’m just excited for all of them to be around me on my big day. some people are more into it than others, but that’s ok! if your friendship is really lacking w/ the last maid, you can always ask her if she’d rather just be a guest. good luck!
Post # 5
Darling Husband and I had 5 on each side with 80 guests in attendance, I think it looked fine!
Post # 6
i wouldn’t debridesmaid anyone, you would definetly risk hurting feelings and ruining friendships, it’s just not worth it, even if you feel like your losing touch with one of them. unless she says something, it’s just not nice. and like everyone’s saying, it’s your wedding and you can have as many people as you want up there. i think there are many pros and cons to a big bridal party, but a big pro is you’ll have tons of help and support on your big day. it sounds like you have lots of good friends and you’ll probably be sad if they’re not there with you.
Post # 7
I think it’s cute that you asked all of them. Honestly, it’s you’re wedding. If you want all 80 of your guests up there DO IT (okay, maybe not ALL of them, but you know…).
If all of those girls are special to you go for it.